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My guess as well. In the future not a good idea to start up a relationship with someone on a separate continent from you. Most people don't take these sort of relationships seriously, try to find someone locally.
she must explain the reasons for her behavior ... you have a right to know ...
Yes, but getting someone to give the reasons is much easier said than done. However, if she stays in contact with the OP, then he might have a chance to at least find out why, over time. Maybe.
"I truly like her and a part of me really hope that one day I'll have a chance to get to know her again, if we somehow end up in the same place and if circumstances are better."
Keep this in the back of your mind for the next 30-40 years, and if in that time she looks you up, you can be happy. But don't stop the chance of new opportunities on the horizon. You can be wowed locally and you won't go looking any further. And if you do meet her after being wowed, you can realize what the contrasts are and how it wasn't right. Another poster indicated there's nothing too big to overcome, but if she has lost the spark, there is little that can be done to ignite it.
OTOH, why do guys question women's decisions like this? Inaction, withdrawal, veiled comments are all interpretable for what they intend. There are no hidden meanings and everything should be as simple as it comes out.
OTOH, why do guys question women's decisions like this? Inaction, withdrawal, veiled comments are all interpretable for what they intend. There are no hidden meanings and everything should be as simple as it comes out.
Because the woman the OP was talking about was acting hot and cold. She liked him and then she didn't and he didn't know why. Given the circumstances it is a reasonable question to ask.
Because the woman the OP was talking about was acting hot and cold. She liked him and then she didn't and he didn't know why. Given the circumstances it is a reasonable question to ask.
I have not seen a truly interested woman ever show cold. Games are games and should be eliminated from the outset. Interest can be neutral/busy/preoccupied, and will always offer an explanation, but is never cold. This doesn't mean people don't play, but they are in it for the game, not the intimacy, and that's not relationship material anyway.
Kind of surprises me guys don't see this either. A real waste of time and effort. This isn't a nuance. Guys see it as a game. Women see it as viable or not. This wasn't viable. She pulled out. A guy should ask once, but not keep following. Women (not girls) are really clear with their messages. When guys get that, there will be less frustration. Guys seem pretty clueless about creating relationships. It's not just 'ask them out and see what happens.' Show interest and follow-through. When it is not there (interest or follow-through) move on.
This C-D forum will now entertain the criticisms, what-ifs, and yes-buts that will invariably rise from the game players and the non-follow-throughs. Relationships really aren't that difficult.
Agree. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Her bush.
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