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Not necessarily. I think I've just fallen into this Alice in Wonderland-type of place where everything and everyone is 180 degrees from what they should be...
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The only person who can fill this void is Jesus Christ.
It is not religion that fills this void but rather having a true personal relationship with our creator.
Go into the Christianity section and watch and read some of the testimonies from people like you and me. I hope the best in your search for happiness and truth.
The OP has already stated that she is not religious, but rather spiritual.
Please post this kind of stuff in the religion forum. People can go there to discuss religious issues.
Believing in your personal relationship with Jesus may fill the void in YOUR life, but others may need to foster a special relationship with THEMSELVES to achieve this goal.
More people than we realize are going through this. A lot of people, especially young people, are simply lost. They don't know why they are on this earth or what they should do in this life. This is why we see the mass killing sprees with people shooting up public schools, malls and workplaces.
Of course there is more to life than getting good grades, making money, getting married and raising kids. It is not about what we do, but who we do it for.
I would encourage you to read The Purpose Driven Life. I know of no better roadmap that explains what we are truly on this earth for.
Im in college, I have a great boyfriend, I have a very high gpa, lots of friends, have 3 jobs, a great family, and my entire future planned out for me.
BUT very often I feel like something is missing. I have never been a rule breaker, or anything like that. My life is ...average. I dont really go to college parties because I'm not interesetd in underage drinking.
I have really high expectations for myself so I never settle for anything less than perfect.
WELL, now I have everything I could ask for...so now what?
What happens when you reach all your goals? I feel like I have nothing to work for now.
What I have recently found myself doing is becoming really nit-picky about stuff that I shouldnt have big problems with.
For example, my boyfriend takes me out to new resturants with exotic foods (even though I never really want to go) and gets me to try new things- always resulting negativly for my taste buds. (lol) But I still get frustrated with stuff like this because I think if I was dating someone else, they would treat me differently.
Basically the only thing I can think of is that I need to change something in my relationship or make goals for my bf and I.
IM NOT interested in breaking up with my bf. We are very much in love and talk about marriage almost daily.
Do you think I'm just being stupid? What could this empyness be?
I really want to take my relationship with my bf to the next level, but I'm too young to be officially engaged. What should I do?
Can anyone knock some sense into me?
Enjoy your good fortune, sweetheart. Your challenges will come. They come to everyone sooner or later. Be grateful for this sweet time.
Sweetie, we are all created with a void within us.
When you realize who created it and fill it with him you will find a peace that passes
all understanding. There in you will find that you can be content and live your blessed life that he has given you and you have worked so hard for.
With all due respect, it sounds almost as if your life up to this point has been a well-scripted play: all the players making their entrances on cue, the techies working the lights just perfectly, everyone hitting their mark just right...
Bleh.
Mix it up! Get out of your confining little boxes and LIVE! You said it yourself - "My entire future planned out for me". How sad. and, how unrealistic. Life has a nasty habit of throwing a curveball when we least expect it - obviously you've been spared this, but the longer you go without a major overhaul to your laid-back, planned existence (because that's what you're doing right now - you're existing, not living), the greater will be the shock when it finally DOES hit.
And I'm sorry, but if your BF is content to keep you the way you are now, then he's just as guilty of inaction as you.
You don't want to drop the boyfriend? OK. (BTW - I suspect this is your first real BF - wrong? Right?) Tell him what's going on in your head - and not over some fancy dinner, either. Go for an old-fashioned picnic - basket, ants and all. You'd be surprised how open-air eating can sometimes focus your thoughts.
I initially wanted to suggest taking some time off and joining something like the Peace Corp - maybe if you would receive some "shock treatment" by seeing how the rest of the world lives, it would persuade you to change.
But I think the tell-tale line you mentioned is:
Guess what, dear? You can never, NEVER reach perfection!
Maybe you're just burned out from trying?
I think the OP showed a lot of constraint in her reply to you. You did make alot of insulting assumptions and you did talk down to her. I'm sure you didn't mean to. It may be your style of expressing yourself since you say your advice keeps being rejected. You might try asking more questions instead of assuming you already have the whole picture. Expressing your sympathy and understanding of another persons situation via writing may not be your forte'.
The OP has already stated that she is not religious, but rather spiritual.
Please post this kind of stuff in the religion forum. People can go there to discuss religious issues.
Believing in your personal relationship with Jesus may fill the void in YOUR life, but others may need to foster a special relationship with THEMSELVES to achieve this goal.
Having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is not about being religious. He is alive right now and knocking on the door to come in. Jesus will come in to your heart if you open the door.
I noticed how some people get defensive when people mention about Jesus Christ.
Jesus is the only way to find true peace and fulfillment in your life. Any other way to fill this void is only temporary. He is the only way to fill this emptiness that we all experience in our lives.
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You'd be surprised how open-air eating can sometimes focus your thoughts.
