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Old 11-12-2020, 07:09 PM
 
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Hi all. I am terrible at this and need advice. I like my co worker very much. A few Saturdays ago I asked

1. Do you have anything exciting planned after work? She said no.

2. After that I said Saturday night is date night. Do you have a boyfriend? She said no

3. It's so risky asking co worker out so I did not do what I wanted.. From what you read did I tip my hand and showed interest?
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Old 11-12-2020, 07:34 PM
 
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Yes, she knows.

It's good to be cautious and discreet in a work environment.
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Old 11-12-2020, 07:49 PM
 
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Have you ever had any conversations with her, that weren't work-related? Do you know anything about her, except that she doesn't have a bf? Do you know if she has any interests that relate to any of yours? Any reason to think you two might have anything in common at all, or that she'd have any reason to reciprocate your interest?

Is your employer strict about "fraternizing" with co-workers, or more lax?

If it turns out she's not interested in you, after you make some overture, how would you manage to work in the same office with her, after that? Could you handle it?
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Old 11-12-2020, 08:25 PM
 
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The company has really no policy towards office dating. What drew me towards her is she is very conservative. Non smoker and non drinker and the way she talks and acts is so high class. She is wife material from what I see. She is Asian like I am. She is Vietnamese and I am Chinese. I have waited my whole life for someone with her traits and well also Asian. I think it's ok to want that even in the over the top PC world

As for hobbies I am down to do whatever the heck she is cool with.
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Old 11-12-2020, 08:38 PM
 
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I don't think she is interested in you.
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Old 11-12-2020, 08:44 PM
 
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I don't think she is interested in you.
No problem I can tell her if she says no take it as a compliment.
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Old 11-12-2020, 08:46 PM
 
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Wait. If she is not interested why did she just not use the company line females use everytime " I have a BF".
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Old 11-12-2020, 09:50 PM
 
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Wait. If she is not interested why did she just not use the company line females use everytime " I have a BF".
Telling you that she doesn't have a boyfriend does NOT automatically mean that she's "interested" or even "available".
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Old 11-12-2020, 11:05 PM
 
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Before you try asking a co-worker out on a date, have you ever just gone out to lunch with her during work, or does your work not enable you to leave the premises during lunch or some such similar issue?
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Old 11-13-2020, 07:39 AM
 
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The problem with this is that if it is a job you want to stay at, you are taking a huge risk if it does not work out. Just talk to her more and see how she responds... Normal conversation... Before you ask her out
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