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how do you guys manage dating costs? I realize that the expectation is for the guy to pick up the full tab of the 1st or 2nd date but how does it go after that? What happens if the woman doesn't contribute even after the 3rd or 4th date? What if the woman is unemployed or has a much lower paying job?
Given that dating represents quite an expensive investment for a guy what criteria do you use to ask only those women who are truly interested in you?
If I asked a woman out on a date, I expected to pay. While I think it's nice of the woman to offer to split the cost, or pick up part of the date (say, maybe she offers to get the snacks at the movie or something), I would usually refuse.
If a woman asked me out on a date, I expected her to pay. I would usually offer to at least split the cost, or even feign that I expected to get it, but if she didn't put up a fight it would raise my eyebrow.
How I managed dating costs is simple. I never asked someone to do anything I couldn't afford to pay for. Sometimes half the fun was finding really inexpensive things to do.
ps. I find myself speaking in the past tense here, because I'm now a one-woman man in a serious relationship that I fully expect to end in marriage, and I now pretty much pay for everything on a date and am happy to do so.
Here is what my husband says:
As a man, you need to show your woman/date that you are able to provide for them, by paying for the date. If you cannot afford a dinner and movie, get a better job ya` bum!
My husband made that comment. I was just typing what he said... LOL
how do you guys manage dating costs? I realize that the expectation is for the guy to pick up the full tab of the 1st or 2nd date but how does it go after that? What happens if the woman doesn't contribute even after the 3rd or 4th date? What if the woman is unemployed or has a much lower paying job?
Given that dating represents quite an expensive investment for a guy what criteria do you use to ask only those women who are truly interested in you?
I wait for them to express interest in me. After that, I have no problem footing the bills. I've never had a girlfriend that had an actual job. I'm her job.
I wait for them to express interest in me. After that, I have no problem footing the bills. I've never had a girlfriend that had an actual job. I'm her job.
I'm now a one-woman man in a serious relationship that I fully expect to end in marriage, and I now pretty much pay for everything...and am happy to do so.
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I'm a girl and have been lower income. I only went dutch after being in a relationship versus just dating. Even then my boyfriend would get frustrated because a lot of the time I couldn't go out. I just couldn't afford it. He made a lot more money than I did. For some reason he couldn't understand that all my money went to bills and I had maybe $20-50 at the end of the month, if I was lucky. Plus he liked all the primping I did with haircolor and some cute clothes for work (JCPenney type) that I could also wear out. That stuff adds up fast, especially if you are low income.
I can see from a guy perspective, if he is lower income, that dating could be a challenge. Once you are in a relationship though, I don't think it would be bad to go dutch. If you are just looking for casual dates, then yes, you should be paying. IMHO
Plus he liked all the primping I did with haircolor and some cute clothes for work (JCPenney type) that I could also wear out. That stuff adds up fast, especially if you are low income.
Ha, exactly! It amazes me how men here constantly whine about the cost of dates. Do they have any clue what it costs women to look half-a** decent...?!
Only date rich desperate women, and this will never be a problem.
RFLMAO this was a good one
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