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My significant other (“S.O.”) and I occasionally have problems communicating. An issue popped up recently and I was hoping to get your thoughts.
I called my S.O. on Friday afternoon an hour before I got off work. They informed me they were going to go golfing with their sibling and I was welcome to join. I politely declined as I was in the midst of work.
An hour later, I realized my temporary workplace was close to the golf driving range and gave my S.O. a call as I wanted to stop by. No answer, no big deal as I was still wrapping up at work. I called a few more times before taking off about 30 minutes later. I sent a quick text “What driving range did you go to?”
About 15 minutes later my S.O. went to their golfing bag and noticed my missed calls and text message.
What would be the BEST response in this situation, a callback, or a text?
To be clear, this is not a huge issue, but I want to get your opinion on what the best method would be for communication here. Please either write in, a call back or text. Thanks so much!
A phone call here, too, but I'm GenX. Most of my younger friends and relatives would have expected a text. They tend to be surprised when their phones ring! ("Even before I looked at my phone I knew it had to be you, Aunt Archaic.")
A phone call here, too, but I'm GenX. Most of my younger friends and relatives would have expected a text. They tend to be surprised when their phones ring! ("Even before I looked at my phone I knew it had to be you, Aunt Archaic.")
Ha! That's definitely true. I'm GenX as well. Texts work fine a lot of the time, but sometimes it's faster/easier/necessary to use your phone as a phone.
I don't think it would matter to me. If he calls and you answer he would know you wouldn't miss a text, but if he usually just texts and there hasn't been any problems with them getting through, that's what I would expect. I am in a rural area and sometimes there is a delay with texts - of course the phone calls get dropped even more. I don't think that is an issue most people have with their service, tho.
I think I will chose TEXT. That's what I would prefer getting. But it seems pretty insignificant in the overall scheme of things.
Either one. If they get back to you, it doesn't matter. It sounds like you were clear that you were just wondering where they were, so it's not like they didn't know it wasn't urgent and would've needed to call because they might have thought there was an emergency.
(Frankly, I would've called or texted once, maybe again a bit later, then shrugged and given it up and gone home. {If you already knew your work was close to the driving range, why did you need to ask which one they were at?})
Obviously, he told you he saw your calls 15 min after your last. So no need to respond, especially if he was done and heading home. What's the big deal? Does he need to be tethered to you and your communication?
You already said you couldn't go, so leave him alone to enjoy time with his sibling.
I would have texted. It wouldn't have occurred to me that a text would be better or worse than a call in that situation. It would have simply been a matter of responding.
There could have also been specific reasons for why your SO would have preferred to text in that instance. There could have been a lot of background noise, or maybe your SO prefers calls when others aren't listening.
Last edited by Masamune; 02-06-2021 at 04:25 PM..
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