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If you're committed to each other, I think it's natural you would be in their place sometimes as well, unless they have something or someone to hide and if you're afraid to "rock the boat" now when you're not even a couple for 6 months, I don't think either of you are prepared to handle a long term love relationship. Relationships have to be based on honesty and communication, having your feelings dismissed and being afraid to bring the subject up doesn't bode well for your future together IMO.
Show up unannounced. Call it a surprise visit. A Vase of flowers, or a favorite book that she have wanted to read. Her demeanor will be the clue to how she handles the encounter.
which one of you is taking issue the most ? Her in defending her excuse, or you for being weary of her true motive in remaining evasive?
Maybe an ex-boyfriend lives in the apartment building?
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Originally Posted by elnina
...and? If he is an ex, it shouldn't matter.
Sometimes when something shouldn't matter, it does matter.
If she does have an ex-bf living in the apartment building, she may not want the ex-bf to see the OP. She may still have feelings for the ex-bf and wants to keep options open. Or the ex-bf may still have feelings for her and is the jealous type. I don't know. She may just not want to deal with a potentially uncomfortable situation with the ex-bf.
Regardless of the real reason (and I doubt "cleaning" is it) if it's important to the man (as it would be to me) she should explain or at least have him come over to see that she does in fact have a place. This kind of evasion is not a good thing between people, it's not privacy, it's evasion. Of something.
We do video chatts from time to time and from what I can see it's not that bad. haven't seen much though.
I'm 100% sure she doesn't have a roommate. She comes to my place a few times a week and my apartment is pretty much the same condition as hers... at least what I can tell from the outside.
Are you sure that she doesn't live with her parents, or has a kid or two?
I would assume she is hiding something, but it could be that she is a slob. Dated a girl, sweet, beautiful, sexy. Finally got to her place. Sink full of dirty, moldy dishes, moldy food in the fridge, Heaped clothes on the bedroom floor to wade through to get to the bed. If you find the same thing when you get in her place, then you have to expect that a 30 year old isn't going to change. You would be the full-time cleaner of any future home you'd share.
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