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And yet so many of them manage to marry and have families.
Remember that heart surgeon who died suddenly in his fifties and it was discovered that he had THREE wives/families? When the women met and started talking, they realized that at least one year, he had eaten three Thanksgiving dinners. He would "get a call" and have to rush off for emergency surgery.
I had a male doctor when pregnant with my second kiddo. I did not feel that he was inappropriate in the way that you are describing (although, yes, the IDEA of these things was disturbing, and seeing his photos of his family on his desk made me wonder how his wife felt about it all)... But the problem, was that while very clinical and professional in demeanor, the dude had ZERO empathy. At one point I was on my back for an exam and when it was time to sit up, I had a problem with hip pain, so I was maneuvering carefully to get up without agony, and he grabbed me by the arm and hauled me up to a sitting position fast, and I screamed it hurt so bad.
I don't think he knew what he was doing or what the problem was, but it was not good. And when the baby was born, he dashed in at the last minute, played "catch" then handed my child off to the nurses and vanished, he was there for less than five minutes and the nurses did all the work. I thought, "I hate that he got paid for that. He shouldn't have."
But my recent experiences with a woman doctor haven't been 100% great, either. She desperately tried to talk me out of getting a tubal ligation, even though I had 2 kids and was 36 years old. It seemed very weird. Even pulled the, "what if you meet a man, and he wants kids..." card on me. She's made up for it by being great in other ways since then, but I really would expect better from a female doctor.
I don't know if I'd date a doctor (gyno or otherwise) or not, really. Probably not, but it's never really come up as a realistic possibility anyways. But I do have a slight crush on my dentist. lol
Cops (Don’t trust them)
In the military (Again, I don’t trust them)
Bartender (Just not compatible)
Politicians (They lie)
Cam girls or anything porn related (Not the lifestyle for me)
But you would be guaranteed that he has a good income.
If a lady was working in that profession, I would think that she has a healthy libido.
Actually, no. You know how men who develop porn addictions become unable to have sex with a real woman? It works in reverse, too. It is not uncommon for women in those kinds of professions to become desensitized to men, sex, and sexuality, both because they see it all as work but also because of how they are treated and the comments they receive from the men who pay to watch them. They can hold a lot of contempt for those men and men in general. A lot of those women are also lesbians and therefore not interested in men beyond collecting money for them. More than a few have substance use problems, and they are either providing sexual entertainment to feed their addictions or they get addicted when using substances to work up the courage to strip down for a camera or performance. Folks can pay lip service to "sex positivity" all they want, but those industries are notorious for destroying the mental health of the women who work in them and the men who become fixated with watching.
TL;dr: It's an act, it's work, and it's not as sexy as you think.
Actually, no. You know how men who develop porn addictions become unable to have sex with a real woman? It works in reverse, too. It is not uncommon for women in those kinds of professions to become desensitized to men, sex, and sexuality, both because they see it all as work but also because of how they are treated and the comments they receive from the men who pay to watch them. They can hold a lot of contempt for those men and men in general. A lot of those women are also lesbians and therefore not interested in men beyond collecting money for them. More than a few have substance use problems, and they are either providing sexual entertainment to feed their addictions or they get addicted when using substances to work up the courage to strip down for a camera or performance. Folks can pay lip service to "sex positivity" all they want, but those industries are notorious for destroying the mental health of the women who work in them and the men who become fixated with watching.
TL;dr: It's an act, it's work, and it's not as sexy as you think.
That's a tough one for me. Because I've known some, and I don't actually judge them for doing what they do, at all. But the ones I have known, I could not date, because their personalities were in general a little more... How do I put it... Too much adventure for my everyday life. I love them at the level of friends. I don't want to live with people who are bipolar, or addicted to cocaine, or who daredevil around on motorcycles and shoot machine guns, or who happily get up to other kinds of high risk stuff. They will be great fun to go have a night on the town with, once in a blue moon, but in my actual home and life I need peace and quiet and chill and reliability. And when dating someone, I often would make my choices with the knowledge that I am letting this person into an inner circle, I'm letting myself be vulnerable to them...I would struggle to trust someone with that kind of personality.
Am I saying that all sex workers are like that? No. I'm saying, though, that the ones I have personally known...those things, even the motorcycles and machine guns, are actual traits of real life people that I am thinking of. One in particular it was hard NOT to have a crush on, she is so absolutely desirable not just in looks but in character, she's an absolute delight. Until you have to babysit her when she is drunk and/or in a manic phase...and then, well, I love her as a friend, and she's amazing, but it's kinda more than I felt qualified to handle if I had to on the regular. And she isn't a sex worker anymore, she used to strip but it's been years since that part of her life. But it's like, sometimes, people tell you that they do this, or used to do that, and you're like, "Well...yeah, OK, I can see it." based on who they are.
I'm too old for my life to be like an action film. In a way, I almost admire people like this, because they have a kind of courage, (is it bravery or foolishness, is always the question, right?) that I do not. But we've all got to be realistic, sooner or later, they would find ME to be insufferably boring. I'd cramp their style as much as they'd make me constantly nervous.
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