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I bumped into an ex-girlfriend the other day and ended up hangin out over a cup of coffee. While talking, she basically said that I was shallow. I told my roomates what she said, and they agreed that I am shallow. I kinda always thought I was a little shallow, but not really. In fact, I cannot say that Im shallow at all.
When I began dating this girl she was thin. A size 1 or 2. Definitely not 3. But by the end, which was about 3 months, she was like a size 5! I kid you not. The first month was just like any normal relationship. She could walk through the door and turn me right on. But during the last two months she became too comfortable. She would come over to my house often, hang out, and eat basically what was around. I live with guy roomates so you can imagine the kind of food there was. When I saw that she was getting thicker I would encourage her to work out with me. She did a few times, but most of the times she would put it off till later, and later hardly ever happened. It frustrated me that she would be asleep many times by 11pm and wake up at 9am. Whereas I constantly go to sleep at 12, and wake up at 6 to be at the gym at 6:30. Yet there was never "time to go to the gym." That last month I was almost completely turned off. What I saw was someone who just didnt want to try to look her best anymore. We ended breaking up. BTW, I never called her fat nor made fun of her weight.
Anyways, at coffee she basically said that she got the hint during the relationship. Over and over again and that she didnt like it. She's still the same size btw.
I did partially break up with her because she got bigger (though it was more of a mutual break up). But mostly because I didnt see that she was trying for me, or herself anymore.
I work out not only for myself, but because I want to look good for whoever I might be with. And I like it when the girl does the same for me. I try to only date women that exercise daily, are fit and care about their body's. I would go as far as to say that I would rather be with a girl 2 sizes larger that works out and is fit, than a skinnier girl who doesnt work out.
Yea I only like women that are thin, but more because of the fitness aspects. Yes I probably would break up with someone for getting out of shape.
And I do realize that women get pregnant and its hard to lose weight. I expect that one day. But Im hoping the future wife I would care too much to let herself go long after popping a baby.
Is that being shallow?
You don't have to ask us if you think you are shallow... I'm sure you already know that you are. Some people have a preference to be shallow - there's nothing wrong with that... but it's certainly not a characteristic that great human beings have nor is it something that takes people very far in life. So if you only have aspirations to be a mediocre person at best, then by all means, relish in your path of shallowness.
No, you just have your preferences. And there is nothing wrong with that. To me shallow would be prefering a woman to be fit and thin, while you yourself are quite out of shape.
OMG, size 5? Call the media, there's a beached whale. I don't think its shallow, just very picky.
Haha!! I didn't know that being a size 5 was being a blimp.
How old are you wesside? And how old was she? While you seem a bit paranoid of having a fat girlfriend, it seems like you just need to find a girlfriend that enjoys going to the gym as much as you do.
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I kid you not. The first month was just like any normal relationship. She could walk through the door and turn me right on. But during the last two months she became too comfortable. She would come over to my house often, hang out, and eat basically what was around. I live with guy roomates so you can imagine the kind of food there was. When I saw that she was getting thicker I would encourage her to work out with me. She did a few times, but most of the times she would put it off till later, and later hardly ever happened. It frustrated me that she would be asleep many times by 11pm and wake up at 9am. Whereas I constantly go to sleep at 12, and wake up at 6 to be at the gym at 6:30. Yet there was never "time to go to the gym." That last month I was almost completely turned off. What I saw was someone who just didnt want to try to look her best anymore. We ended breaking up. BTW, I never called her fat nor made fun of her weight. 
