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Old 09-05-2021, 08:28 PM
 
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Talking to a 36yo old man who works as a karate instructor but has a degree.
The other night he begged me not to get the second dose of the pfizer vaccine (I am autoimmune and at risk of Covid) because it was harmful. I understand people who are vaccine hesitant...but he also said Covid does not exist - people are presenting with symptoms that they are calling 'Covid.' He also has other bizarre views - aliens, new world order, the government plotting against us (we live in Australia), capitalism (we should be free to do what we want instead of working), encouraging anarchist ways of living, etc. On facebook, he posts a lot of rants about these things and when he provides a source, it is a study done by ONE person or dodgy looking news site, etc. The people on his facebook seem to find him annoying - often telling him to 'find a real job' and stop being a keyboard warrior.

I respect differnces of opinion - but can a relationship with someone like this ever work? Especially when you think differently, and your peer group (friends, family) hold similar beliefs to you?

I keep having images of introducing him to my family and my parents being like, congratulations, you have found yourself an idiot.

At the same time, he is a nice guy and we have good chemistry.

What has been your experience dating people who hold conspirational beliefs?
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Old 09-05-2021, 08:33 PM
 
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My experience is people like you described are nuts and it is better not to get too involved with them.
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Old 09-05-2021, 08:40 PM
 
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Drop him. There's no point in getting involved with someone that is so nutty. It might be interesting and even amusing at first, but eventually you will be gritting your teeth and wanting to tell him to get his head out of his tushie. As for meeting your family and friends.....your parents will worry and your friends will be laughing all over the place. Not that your friends should be the deciding factor. That should be his paranoia. Run! Hide!
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Old 09-05-2021, 09:17 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I wouldn't even want to waste my time for a second w/ someone who has such a difference in thinking to mine. I mean unless you like arguing your point w/ someone 24/7 & being frustrated, always butting heads, getting stressed, thinking how crazy the person is, having your health go downhill due to that, etc., etc., etc. then by all means go for it!
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Old 09-05-2021, 09:54 PM
 
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I wouldn't even want to waste my time for a second w/ someone who has such a difference in thinking to mine. I mean unless you like arguing your point w/ someone 24/7 & being frustrated, always butting heads, getting stressed, thinking how crazy the person is, having your health go downhill due to that, etc., etc., etc. then by all means go for it!
And better for both parties to end it sooner rather than later. Even if the sex is great there are all the other hours wasted on someone that is not compatible in so many other respects. And if a person wanted children, imagine the difficulties.
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Old 09-05-2021, 10:01 PM
 
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I wouldn’t be with someone like that man.
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Old 09-05-2021, 10:08 PM
 
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I hope this is not the same guy the OP had an issue with about a birthday cake.

Anyhow run while you can, conspiracy nuts like these who openly post without hesitation on social media ranting and raving, are usually not very nice people.
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Old 09-05-2021, 11:35 PM
 
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I think it is important for me to be in a relationship with a rational person. I would even have a hard time maintaining a friendship with someone as described.
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Old 09-06-2021, 12:19 AM
 
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Talking to a 36yo old man who works as a karate instructor but has a degree.
The other night he begged me not to get the second dose of the pfizer vaccine (I am autoimmune and at risk of Covid) because it was harmful. I understand people who are vaccine hesitant...but he also said Covid does not exist - people are presenting with symptoms that they are calling 'Covid.' He also has other bizarre views - aliens, new world order, the government plotting against us (we live in Australia), capitalism (we should be free to do what we want instead of working), encouraging anarchist ways of living, etc. On facebook, he posts a lot of rants about these things and when he provides a source, it is a study done by ONE person or dodgy looking news site, etc. The people on his facebook seem to find him annoying - often telling him to 'find a real job' and stop being a keyboard warrior.

I respect differnces of opinion - but can a relationship with someone like this ever work? Especially when you think differently, and your peer group (friends, family) hold similar beliefs to you?

I keep having images of introducing him to my family and my parents being like, congratulations, you have found yourself an idiot.

At the same time, he is a nice guy and we have good chemistry.

What has been your experience dating people who hold conspirational beliefs?
Just change the subject when he talks about conspiracy theories and when he does don't say anything. If you get the vaccine don't tell him. I have friends that have conspiracy theories such as covid is fake and the vaccines cause more harm than good, like that and when the subject comes up I try to change the topic or ignore the topic. If they send me conspiracy links I just ignore it.
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Old 09-06-2021, 02:58 AM
 
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I say go for it. What could possibly go wrong? LOL
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