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Hoboken, you and I should chat, LOL! I don't want to hijack the thread, but we are really going through a very similar time. I know others are in the same boat out there.
I agree, I posted on another thread about therapy and I keep thinking about it when reading this thread. It's not all bad. It's just work. Perhaps we as a society no longer like to work, so therefore jump ship too quick. Meaning, it's hard work, but there is a good result for that hard work!
I agree, I posted on another thread about therapy and I keep thinking about it when reading this thread. It's not all bad. It's just work. Perhaps we as a society no longer like to work, so therefore jump ship too quick. Meaning, it's hard work, but there is a good result for that hard work!
I agree! What I learned from my parents and the relationship that I am in now with my husband is that it is VERY hard work, but it is worth it and then some! You get back much more than you put in. You just can't throw in the towel every time it gets rough.
Very sorry Jeep. I hope you gain some faith in humanity eventually, although I understand that'll take awhile, if ever.
Hobo: If what you have is described as many doubts, I certainly wouldn't jump into child rearing. I swear, it seems like a major marriage breaker. And it's for life. So maybe keep thinking about it. Just don't do anything rash!
It's been eight years. I still feel like it was last week. It just hit me so hard. The person I thought I could trust above all others. The person I thought loved me the most. Thank you for your kind words everyone. I don't think I'll ever be able to trust another person. Thank goodness for my kids. I love them so much and they love me. Blood is different, I think. I now also have a grand daughter that is the light of my life so that does ease the pain a lot.
I have been Married for 5 years and 2 months, and in the past few months things have been going down hill. My husband and I have been together as a couple for 8 years and we do not have any children. Were really focused on paying off bills right now, I think since life seems more like a chore with the paying off bills and not having any spending money. So Life and our relationship is not enjoyble at this time. But I dont think thats all thats hurting our relationship. I think maybe after 5 years, and you both let your self go for awhile, and your together so much and then move to where people dont come to visit with you, and you dont get that social interaction that we as humans need. At this point you just kind of go stir crazy, and start to nick pick all the flaws that your partner has. Im guessing 5-7 years are the toughest.
I was just thinking about this. A friend of mine said that the first 5 years of marriage are the hardest. She divorced her husband in year 4, got engaged to another man, but ended up back with husband number 1 several years later. They've now been together 10 more years.
I've heard others say that the first year is the most difficult.
Others say that the first year is the honeymoon period.
Most divorces that I have seen happen after year 10.
So is there a hard and fast rule?
If you get through the first three years are you out of the woods, or are the first 10 years the easy part?
Any thoughts?
For me month 2 was the hardest. We almost divorced. My nightmare was documented here. Now in month 5, so far so good eventhough my husband had his grumpylicious attack for the nth time yesterday. He told me it's the time of the month. I said okay I will remember that.
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