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You resent the fact that your BF is a good dad. It’s none of your business how he spends his money EXCEPT for paying his share of the household bills. It’s certainly none of your business whether his son attends University before starting his career.
Ask him to pay his share on time. If you’re not satisfied with his response, move on.
This! If your a parent then your children will ALWAYS come first over anyone else.
Why do I get the feeling that the women here are upset because the OP needs aren’t coming first?
Sounds like he’s trying to give his son what he’s never had, isn’t that the point wanting to give your children/child a better life then you’ve had?
This! If your a parent then your children will ALWAYS come first over anyone else.
Why do I get the feeling that the women here are upset because the OP needs aren’t coming first?
Sounds like he’s trying to give his son what he’s never had, isn’t that the point wanting to give your children/child a better life then you’ve had?
The issues are two entirely separate issues. The OP’s financial needs may not be met if her SO is supposed to be on the lease and split rent costs. It doesn’t really matter *why* he is late, just that he is late generally. The OP does not have to accept his reasoning and has every right to be upset without placing any judgments on the SO for choosing to put his son first.
The issues are two entirely separate issues. The OP’s financial needs may not be met if her SO is supposed to be on the lease and split rent costs. It doesn’t really matter *why* he is late, just that he is late generally. The OP does not have to accept his reasoning and has every right to be upset without placing any judgments on the SO for choosing to put his son first.
Sorry but it sounds like the OP is upset because his child is coming first yes he’s late on the rent but still getting paid. It’s obvious that the OP has has a problem with her boyfriend helping his son and if she does then she should walk end the relationship and move on.
I personally would not date a woman who did not put her kids first.
If the bf wasn't living with the OP, and was just paying his landlord late every month... would you then say he should be putting his son's rent for the dorm first?
The man also owes OP for a past loan. Should she be expected to suck it up instead of him at least making payments? If he owed a bank.....see where I am going?
She just needs to decide if the positives of the relationship are worth the negatives and to consider what the financial future with this fellow will be. She should have looked harder at it before starting to cohabitate. Personally I think she should consider that the loan is unlikely to ever be repaid and accept it as a lesson learned. She should have him find his own place to live and then whether or not he pays his bills or has financial difficulties - it's no longer her problem. They can continue to have a romantic relationship without living together, and money is no longer an issue between them.
I would say the same thing to a man that was living with a woman that wasn't paying her share of living expenses in a timely manner.
The bf helping his son isn't the real issue. He could pay his bills first in a timely manner and then the son gets help. BF could get a second (part time) job and/or the son could get a part time job, but the OP shouldn't have to be subsidizing the BF's son by letting her partner not pay back a personal loan and be late with his share of the rent, and probably being left holding the bag when some unexpected costs for the bf or his son happen. I doubt the OP will do anything about it except gripe, tho.
Sorry but it sounds like the OP is upset because his child is coming first yes he’s late on the rent but still getting paid. It’s obvious that the OP has has a problem with her boyfriend helping his son and if she does then she should walk end the relationship and move on.
I personally would not date a woman who did not put her kids first.
Try that argument with a regular landlord or creditor. It isn’t going to work on a regular basis unless you want to get late fees every month. It’s one thing to have a short-term issue that lasts a few months, but in the OP’s case, this may last for years. That is not a reasonable expectation. If it is a financial hardship for her, she has every right to decide that they need to live separately.
Try that argument with a regular landlord or creditor. It isn’t going to work on a regular basis unless you want to get late fees every month. It’s one thing to have a short-term issue that lasts a few months, but in the OP’s case, this may last for years. That is not a reasonable expectation. If it is a financial hardship for her, she has every right to decide that they need to live separately.
Agreed. I think she needs a little time to accept the fact he's a user, not marriage material, and figure out how to get him out.
Try that argument with a regular landlord or creditor. It isn’t going to work on a regular basis unless you want to get late fees every month. It’s one thing to have a short-term issue that lasts a few months, but in the OP’s case, this may last for years. That is not a reasonable expectation. If it is a financial hardship for her, she has every right to decide that they need to live separately.
There’s more to life than a credit score. Well for some of us. I think she should tell her boyfriend that it’s not working out.
There’s more to life than a credit score. Well for some of us. I think she should tell her boyfriend that it’s not working out.
That's fine if he wants to destroy his OWN credit, but right now he is making his financial problems HER problems.
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The OP seemed to be suggesting that the kid should drop out of college because a real estate agent apparently only needs a license, not a college degree.
The boyfriend may be taking advantage of the OP, but the boyfriend's kid's education is none of her business IMO.
She should have him find his own place to live and then whether or not he pays his bills or has financial difficulties - it's no longer her problem. They can continue to have a romantic relationship without living together, and money is no longer an issue between them.
Extremely unlikely if she kicks him out.
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