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I would consider this a betrayal of trust. I would not hesitate to break up with current boyfriend. I'd even suggest they date each other.
Pretty much my thoughts.
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Originally Posted by Confused76
He saw his profile name on my facebook. my ex and i were still friends on there my exs profile is set to public anyone is able to message him
One more reason to keep one's total biography off the internet. Good luck with that, with the selfie generation. What is it with photos, people feel the photo isn't complete unless a pic of themselves taking a selfie? Self absorbed much?
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Originally Posted by ellie
That’s way too weird for me. Creepy even.
Yup yup yup. Creepier than weird for me. See selfies, above.
It is super easy to find someone online. You may even find a phone number if you google them. You can pretty much look up anyone's complete life if they own property or are on social media.
I find it super creepy that your bf contacts your ex. Major red flag and major deal breaker. I would dump his a$$ today.
What exactly do you mean by that. Creepy that he pursued trying to locate my ex or the fact he continued to talk to him after I found out and knew talking to him upset me. How could I not feel like he was completly out of line.
What exactly do you mean by that. Creepy that he pursued trying to locate my ex or the fact he continued to talk to him after I found out and knew talking to him upset me. How could I not feel like he was completly out of line.
I agree with you. Initiating this line of inquiry with your ex and continuing to keep it alive despite your request to stop means this guy is a huge creep. There's no doubt about it. Kick him to the curb.
Please tell me your ex doesn't have any compromising photos of you...
He doesn’t trust you. There’s something in your history that he suspects is either false or alarming, and he contacted your ex about it to find out more about you from someone who dated you.
He shouldn’t have done it IMO, but rather just asked you directly to clear the air and either trusted you or moved on, but he contacted your ex instead. The ball’s in your court now on how to proceed.
Thank you for the response. Every relationship has its problems but in my opinion you dont go asking your current partners ex questions regarding your relationship with them. That was the initial reason so he says he contacted my ex. He wanted to talk to my ex man to man. I can not believe my ex actually agreed to speak to him. The ex and I ended our romantic relationship on good terms. It was because of distance no cheating or betrayal. That is why we remained friends. Actually there have been a few things my current boyfriend has done that should have had me walking away while ago, I guess I just wanted to give it more time to decide.
If I told you he left me at a bar on his birthday without telling me he was leaving while drunk.....not to mention he walked back to my place about 1 mile from the bar....in the dark on a major highway,...what would you say? No you cant make this stuff up. It's been a roller coaster ride with this guy. I know I have made mistakes too, but nothing compared to him. i think the last straw for me was a few weeks ago we were talking and he grabbed a bottle out of my hands and threw it across his kitchen...... didn't hit me or anything but clearly showed me he has anger issues. i was telling him how i felt we couldn't be together anymore and wanted to end things. All the while yelling at me to get the f... OUT. its fair to mention we had both been drinking although i had just started with the first drink when he grabbed it out of my hand. Needless to say left soon after that and went home. He has always been very generous and money never seems to be an issue with him. Always paid for dinners, always bought me flowers and there was a lot of passion. looking back on this past year with him, I do feel there was a jelousy issue,,,even a drinking problem( should probably mention he has had 3 DWI's in the last 10years) I cant believe I'm looking for advice from complete strangers. i don't want my family to know the mess i've gotten myself into as I am ashamed. one more thing, my daughter always said she felt there was something off about him and there was a look in his eyes that she didn't like. should have listened to her. Thankfully shes in college while i figure this mess out and try to move on. i don't deserve the emotional garbage. Thanks for reading. Decided to end it once and for all. not that it matters but he is a diabetic, had a stroke and is a generation older than me. We are both over 40, but under 60 dont want to be specific in giving our ages.
I ended it last week when I went threw his phone to see if he had contacted him again. Sure enough he did. Yes I kow i violated his privacy, but it was the only way to know. Funny thing is he had him listed under a different last name, same first name. i only knew for sure it was my ex's number by seeing it. Then my boyfriend had the nerve to say HE CALLED ME, but it was an out going symbol next to his name......guess he thinks im stupid!! Unfortunetly, I don't think I've heard the last of him.
I ended it last week when I went threw his phone to see if he had contacted him again.
If you already ended it last week problem solved. Why do you still refer to this now ex as your “current boyfriend”?
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