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This is when you find the worst pic of yourself and then meet the person for drinks and they will find you much better looking. But I dont think a guy can do this because we already dont get many replies so putting up a bad looking pic reduces my chances of matching. Just wondering has anyone tried this? I seen a special on this last week how this women used bad pics in her profile
My photos were intended to do two things. Some of them were to give a realistic idea of how I truly look. Some of them were there to show aspects of my personality. The second type had me looking more goth or sometimes they were "artsy"...but they were not hot girl selfies. The way I did those was to set up an actual camera on a tripod with a delay, I had an idea in my mind of how I wanted the lighting and framing and the shot, I'd go pose myself and get the shot then look to see if I captured what I wanted. And I did use filters, but they were obvious like black and white or even "negative" coloration on a sketch effect. Because it was fun and I felt like it, and I'm an artist anyways. I always felt that those...it should be very clear they aren't really there to express what I'll look like showing up to a date, they are there to convey my personality, taste, sensibilities. I didn't worry about what would interest men. I was just like, "I'm over here being me. Take it or leave it."
But I decided very early on that I had no desire to go on dates being all made up to the nines, either. I don't do that in my normal life so I wasn't doing it on a date. Really if that's the kind of woman that a man wants, he was barking up the wrong tree here. I CAN go full elegant and really pull it off, but it isn't going to happen often, and probably not just for him but for a bigger social event.
I dunno I think that maybe a reason for why there has been so much frustration for some folks in dating is just how over-thought and forced it all has become since apps became the "standard" (at least as many people see it.) Nobody is being real anymore. It's hard to get attracted to someone who is setting a timer for the precise number of correct seconds between text replies, or who is grading me on a scale of 1 to 10, or some weird catfish game, reverse or not.
The photo I used on the dating app was a pretty plain photo. I was barely wearing makeup, hair was blah, didn't smile, made a kind of snarky expression, just a head shot, showed no cleavage or any body parts.
I did get quite a few matches and dates though including the guy I am still dating over a year later. I think the plain photo was good for honing in on guys that were truly attracted to me in the way I really looked.
They weren't disappointed in person because I think I probably did look prettier in person. Most people use filters or look way better in pictures than in real life. Thats just wasting time because once you meet the chance is high they will be disappointed and feel catfished. And you are just going to draw a lot of thirsty guys who think you are easy especially if you have cleavage or sexy shots.
If you want to be efficient and not waste time use a recent photo and one that is very realistic and not filtered nor overly flattering.
This is when you find the worst pic of yourself and then meet the person for drinks and they will find you much better looking. But I dont think a guy can do this because we already dont get many replies so putting up a bad looking pic reduces my chances of matching. Just wondering has anyone tried this? I seen a special on this last week how this women used bad pics in her profile
I have been told many times that my photos do not do me justice. It was not intentional. I just do not photograph well. However, I will say that it was a pleasant surprise for me and nice to know that they woud have been fine with the photo version of me.
This is when you find the worst pic of yourself and then meet the person for drinks and they will find you much better looking. But I dont think a guy can do this because we already dont get many replies so putting up a bad looking pic reduces my chances of matching. Just wondering has anyone tried this? I seen a special on this last week how this women used bad pics in her profile
I disapprove of dating sites period, but playing games to "catch" someone is strange. I get the concept of what she's doing but don't see the "need" for it.
I think this is no different than those silly Snapchat filters used to try and make your appearance look different than it really is. I imagine those people who view someone's filtered photo and who finally meet in person to see they don't look nearly as nice are probably not really happy either.
I think this is no different than those silly Snapchat filters used to try and make your appearance look different than it really is. I imagine those people who view someone's filtered photo and who finally meet in person to see they don't look nearly as nice are probably not really happy either.
“Reverse catfish” can involve something other than filters or a picture. I think it’s been common with people who have a lot of money to downplay it so they don’t attract gold diggers. In contrast, a lot of people who really flash their wealth on dating sites may not actually have that much- like that guy on the new Netflix documentary the Tinder Swindler.
I think a lot of people who use filters on dating sites may use filters for ALL their content.
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