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Ok..but fact remains there are many who never have any...what about the disfigured, deformed, unattractive etc?
I use a wheelchair so, depending how broadly you define those categories, I probably fit all of them. I think of my circumstances as a get out of dating free card that prevents people trying to get closer to me, physically or emotionally, than I’m comfortable with. The conversations that prompted this thread suggest otherwise.
yeah , 5 or 6 standard deviations from down the middle is kind of rough. I thought about that , but it is often the case that people still want to choose against their own demographic so to speak. I think for me what is painful is not what was always impossible, but squandering what was possible.
When I eventually meet my fallen overlord at the gates of hell , it will be when he tells me I had the talents and abilities to be Mozart that would burn the most. Too bad I found out I made killer corn bread first and peaked at fry cook of the month.
One just makes peace with what is not possible.
Sorry most of your reposnse made little sense to me...can you explain what exactly you are tring to say..?
I still think I'm right. IF it's that important to you (and it's not THAT important to a lot of people at any given time) you can do a lot of different things. You can move to where the opportunities are (like women moving to Alaska or something), or people can do various things to boost their confidence, and have the chutzpah to look someone in the eye and talk, join a dating site, get a mail order bride...there are MANY things one can do, IF IT'S THAT IMPORTANT to the individual.
Is it necessarily the right thing to do? Maybe not. But I feel like if there's a will, there's a way.
Naaahhh, sorry, nope.
Not about 'confidence' - you can have all there is, still means zippo if the other party isn't 'playing'.
Dating sites? Oh please... some here would get slaughtered there...might as well divebomb into the nearest woodchipper apparatus. LOL.
And mail-order brides??? I guess that's ok if you're Sooper-Dooper desperate and also lack self-respect AND have plenty of $$$$$ to throw down the toilet when the 'arrangement' nosedives.
Not about 'confidence' - you can have all there is, still means zippo if the other party isn't 'playing'.
Dating sites? Oh please... some here would get slaughtered there...might as well divebomb into the nearest woodchipper apparatus. LOL.
And mail-order brides??? I guess that's ok if you're Sooper-Dooper desperate and also lack self-respect AND have plenty of $$$$$ to throw down the toilet when the 'arrangement' nosedives.
That's what I'm saying. IF it's that important, you'll find a way. And there's a lot of different ways.
But it's up to the individual to figure out what they're willing to do.
I believe the currently acceptable term is AMAB. I grew up in a suffocatingly close family and, while I loved them to bits and miss them every day, I was always happiest on my own. This has continued into middle age and made even the most casual, uncommitted relationship seem too much like hard work. Thus, no runs on the scoreboard and no plans to change.
I use a wheelchair so, depending how broadly you define those categories, I probably fit all of them. I think of my circumstances as a get out of dating free card that prevents people trying to get closer to me, physically or emotionally, than I’m comfortable with. The conversations that prompted this thread suggest otherwise.
Maybe this is why they won't stop bugging you about it. There are a lot of people who will push boundaries with people who have physical disabilities and be intrusive in a way they wouldn't be with the able-bodied. I don't know why, but I've seen it. They tend to be the same kind of people who think nothing of reaching out and patting the belly of a pregnant woman they barely know.
Why exactly do you disagree? Can you explain your thought proccess here?
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I grew up in a suffocatingly close family and, while I loved them to bits and miss them every day, I was always happiest on my own. This has continued into middle age and made even the most casual, uncommitted relationship seem too much like hard work. Thus, no runs on the scoreboard and no plans to change.