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we had a long - and long overdue - discussion last night because she was extremely upset at me because I was not supporting her very demanding emotional needs. I explained that I am just not the right person for her as I am not naturally a caretaker, am very independent, and am very focused on the practicalities of day-to-day living whereas she requires someone who will devote a lot of time to comforting her and catering to her emotional needs. Additionally, she is always going to be disappointed that I don't share her core beliefs and values - for example, she wanted me to consult a christian mystical life coach. I explained that I am not that type of person - though I am a practicing catholic with a spiritual side, I am not into mysticism and a whole host of other aspects that are part of the cult and cultish people that she follows. To her, they are significant connections to her spiritual side...and to me, they are charlatains. And that gap is just way to wide to bridge.
All in all, I believe we came to an understanding. While I am sure she is disappointed, I think I might have played it up in my own head as something more hurtful that it would really be.
Thanks for those who responded. I feel like I have a weight off my shoulders, and this feedback provided some encouragement for making the right decision.
Well done. That sounds like a quite decent outcome.
This is probably a good place for the mods to close the thread.
The OP doesn't have to do anything except say "be my guest."
Yes, that is callous. Well, I don't have time to deal with Teh Insane - take it elsewhere. If the OP actually ended it then what she does - or doesn't do - should not matter one iota, as long as it does not involve him personally.
No, it's not callous. It's cruel and unhelpful. If he wants to block her so he doesn't get those calls in the first place, that's fine. But perhaps think about how you would feel if someone mentioned self-harm to you, you said that, and so they did. Probably not something you would want on your conscience for the rest of your life. You talk a good smack show, but I suspect---at least I hope---that's all it is.
Scoutflyer--Kudos to you for handling a difficult relationship situation with maturity and in a seemingly kind way.
If you want a long term relationship, these characteristics will work in you favor in the future.
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