Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Don't flirt in remotely sexual way. It is possible to flirt without doing that.
Prior to the Sixties, women had flirting down pat. Then all the dutch dating and hanging out b.s. started. I didn't ever really learn to date and many of my contemporaries have mentioned this as well.
Don't flirt in remotely sexual way. It is possible to flirt without doing that.
Prior to the Sixties, women had flirting down pat. Then all the dutch dating and hanging out b.s. started. I didn't ever really learn to date and many of my contemporaries have mentioned this as well.
I think it is healthy that people pay for themselves on dates. If you want a relationship of equals, you need to date like equals. USA is a money-driven culture, and money is power. I will maintain my own and would expect him to maintain his own. Once that balance tips to men paying for me, it tends to foster entitlement and a sense of control on their part that I find repugnant. Also, do not treat me like a child who needs to be provided for. Show me who you ARE, not what you can afford.
As for "hanging out," well, I suppose it depends on what you mean by that. If it is a euphemism for "friends with benefits" and no-strings sex, there is a debate to be had there. But if you're referring to how young people often go out in groups and people kind of find one another and pair up without going out on "official" dates, I think that is a good thing. It creates a foundation of friendship that can only help a relationship.
In fact, I think attaching so much value to an "official" date is investing too much in someone you don't know very well, the amount of money the person spends on you, how exciting the activity is, and so on and not enough on the actual purpose of dating, which is to enjoy one another's company. Money runs out. Only millionaires can pay pop off to Tahiti on a moment's notice. The rest of us have to work, manage a home, and balance out our lives. The point is to find someone who makes life better to share the journey with, not to entertain us, yes?
Besides, look at what attaching a lot of value to an official date does. Look at all of the analysis paralysis and unrealistic expectations it sets. Case study: Mandi.
I'm excited and nervous. I am nervous we won't have anything to talk about, and it'll be awkward to finally be in person. But I could be wrong and it could be really comfortable too and not awkward. We'll just wait and see.
I'm excited and nervous. I am nervous we won't have anything to talk about, and it'll be awkward to finally be in person. But I could be wrong and it could be really comfortable too and not awkward. We'll just wait and see.
Bit of a female projection. Most men are not looking for comedians or night time talk show hosts. That is probably what you would like from him. Men will complain of women who do not stop talking, in fact. If you like to talk, that's cool because eventually you are going to have to exist as you naturally are , but no need to add anything artificial.
I'm excited and nervous. I am nervous we won't have anything to talk about, and it'll be awkward to finally be in person. But I could be wrong and it could be really comfortable too and not awkward. We'll just wait and see.
You worry too much. You are meeting to see if you like him, he is meeting to see if he likes you. That's it. This is essentially a stranger, and one who has behaved oddly at that.
__________________ ____________________________________________
My posts as a Mod will always be in red.
Be sure to review Terms of Service: TOS
And check this out: FAQ
Moderator: Relationships Forum / Hawaii Forum / Dogs / Pets / Current Events
I'm excited and nervous. I am nervous we won't have anything to talk about, and it'll be awkward to finally be in person. But I could be wrong and it could be really comfortable too and not awkward. We'll just wait and see.
Seems like you've already talked about everything in your texting marathons. I thought most people knew that too much texting before a first date tends to take the wind out of date conversations, leading to awkward silences and no second dates. Mandi didn't know that I guess.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
