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I think I'm focusing way too much on his words and not his actions. His actions are that he was on his phone on our date. He hasn't planned another date. And that's it. His words mean nothing.
I think I'm focusing way too much on his words and not his actions. His actions are that he was on his phone on our date. He hasn't planned another date. And that's it. His words mean nothing.
But not in a melodramatic way. YOUR words mean nothing here.... unless you follow it up with action.
(Same goes for everyone)
Looking back to when I was dating, I found guys who were all goo-goo over me to be a turn off. Why? Because they didn't even know me.... Think about it.... if someone is over the top about another person they do not even know, it's not personal.... it's not about YOU, it's the "idea" of you or the idea of someone who might fill his needs. It doesn't mean your special, it's just you have filled some need they have. Why? Because they don't know you as a person, it's like who you are doesn't matter.
Ugh, did that make any sense?
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I think I'm focusing way too much on his words and not his actions. His actions are that he was on his phone on our date. He hasn't planned another date. And that's it. His words mean nothing.
I think I'm focusing way too much on his words and not his actions. His actions are that he was on his phone on our date. He hasn't planned another date. And that's it. His words mean nothing.
And let's not forget that you had to twist his arm to get him to go on that date.
But not in a melodramatic way. YOUR words mean nothing here.... unless you follow it up with action.
(Same goes for everyone)
Looking back to when I was dating, I found guys who were all goo-goo over me to be a turn off. Why? Because they didn't even know me.... Think about it.... if someone is over the top about another person they do not even know, it's not personal.... it's not about YOU, it's the "idea" of you or the idea of someone who might fill his needs. It doesn't mean your special, it's just you have filled some need they have. Why? Because they don't know you as a person, it's like who you are doesn't matter.
He is texting me. Sent me a picture. He's at the grocery store. Sent me a picture of a whole section of a food I don't like, Pickles, saying that it's my nightmare.
You don’t HAVE to have your freakin’ phone on 24/7, you know. You don’t HAVE to open his texts (or even know about them, if your phone was off). You don’t HAVE to respond.
Holy crap, this is NOT that hard.
And Mandi, here’s a question I know you won’t answer: what would he think if you showed him this thread???
Not really. Lust is very simple and uncomplicated. What I'm talking about is more nuanced, but does include lust.
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You don’t HAVE to have your freakin’ phone on 24/7, you know. You don’t HAVE to open his texts (or even know about them, if your phone was off). You don’t HAVE to respond.
Holy crap, this is NOT that hard.
And Mandi, here’s a question I know you won’t answer: what would he think if you showed him this thread???
I think I know the answer, and it’s not good.
I agree. I want to have more hobbies. I don't even know where to start with them. A lot cost money and I'm tight on that.
I'd be so embarrassed if he knew what I really thought here.
Not really. Lust is very simple and uncomplicated. What I'm talking about is more nuanced, but does include lust.
I've been on the receiving end of it. Most recently, a couple days ago.
Yes, it's lust. Nuanced or not, all the same.
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