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I am 23yo male. I have not had much relationship experience with…well women. I am talking to a 22yo female, let’s name her Stacy. We were introduced by a friend unexpectedly, we both saw pics of each other and ended up agreeing to meet up. She showed up, I was told she was very nervous beforehand, and I just got in her car in the back seat and we hung out and talked…felt kind of awkward. I’m my head I was more nervous than she was but still contributing an effort. I wasn’t talking much and it was her and Sam(friend that introduced us) we’re just doing alot of the talking to each other. But to my amazement she liked me and wanted to meet up again soon. She got my Snapchat and we started talking to each other via snap since we’re both busy. It goes on and we meet up again, she came to my place and we watched “the package” on Netflix and we just cuddled and talked about ourselves. Afterwards I walked her to her car, hugged her and she left. We talked for a few more days on Snapchat and then agreed to go out to chili’s. So she picked me up(my car is in the shop rn) and we went to chili’s. We talked about a lot there, just talking about our interests and hobbies more and we both brought up past relationships. I’ve been with 1 girl for like 3 months back in high school. She’s been with 2 bf’s one of 2 years and next was 2.5months. Then she breaks away from the convo to ask if she can ask me things honestly, I said “of course”. She asked me what I wanted out of the relationship or what I had in mind to happen between us. Of course idk at this point like i just said “there’s not much I would say no to” basically.(I was wondering in my head, “what do YOU want out of this?) I was very nervous and didn’t want to say anything strong. But we a declared it a first date. She also said she doesn’t if she’d have time for a relationship with her jobs(she works 2) and is pretty much only able to hang out on weekends. I want to make as much as I can out of us, just her jobs make it difficult. And then afterwards we came back to my house and watched some dating show on Netflix called sexy beasts. Watched a few episodes, then she said she had to leave. So I walked her out to her car once again and I swear it felt like we were both about to kiss. She even stood on her cars foot rail to get up to my eyes level(since I’m 6’0 and she’s 5’2”). We ended up hugging and she left. Am I being a baby? Is she giving me opportunities to make moves?
It's obvious young males today do not have the proper role models or coaching in the relationship game.
Why is the OP asking us if he should have done something more, isn't it obvious he should have? By continuing to play the role of a 'gentleman' (aka a person too scared to risk things), all that does is continue to create a frustrating situation where you never know where you stand with someone else.
All you had to do was go in for the kiss. If she responded positively, great. If she didn't intend that, at least you'll know where that stands instead of spending weeks and months wondering if there's something between you.
If the OP has another date, it would behoove him to go for a kiss at some point in the date. I'm not talking about heavy making out, but something to gauge her true interest in him instead of a friend zone that's enjoying the free dinners, movies, etc. Are guys these days so afraid to do something simple like that?
Or the other option would be to hold her hand at some point during the date. Depending on how she responds to that, it should be clear whether he should go in for a kiss or not. I mean, if he's worried about being too forward, which it sounds like he is.
Next time, go on an activity date like to a museum, a hike, a basketball game or throwing axes. It’ll give you more material to figure out where you’re headed.
I am 23yo male. I have not had much relationship experience with…well women. I am talking to a 22yo female, let’s name her Stacy. We were introduced by a friend unexpectedly, we both saw pics of each other and ended up agreeing to meet up. She showed up, I was told she was very nervous beforehand, and I just got in her car in the back seat and we hung out and talked…felt kind of awkward. I’m my head I was more nervous than she was but still contributing an effort. I wasn’t talking much and it was her and Sam(friend that introduced us) we’re just doing alot of the talking to each other. But to my amazement she liked me and wanted to meet up again soon. She got my Snapchat and we started talking to each other via snap since we’re both busy. It goes on and we meet up again, she came to my place and we watched “the package” on Netflix and we just cuddled and talked about ourselves. Afterwards I walked her to her car, hugged her and she left. We talked for a few more days on Snapchat and then agreed to go out to chili’s. So she picked me up(my car is in the shop rn) and we went to chili’s. We talked about a lot there, just talking about our interests and hobbies more and we both brought up past relationships. I’ve been with 1 girl for like 3 months back in high school. She’s been with 2 bf’s one of 2 years and next was 2.5months. Then she breaks away from the convo to ask if she can ask me things honestly, I said “of course”. She asked me what I wanted out of the relationship or what I had in mind to happen between us. Of course idk at this point like i just said “there’s not much I would say no to” basically.(I was wondering in my head, “what do YOU want out of this?) I was very nervous and didn’t want to say anything strong. But we a declared it a first date. She also said she doesn’t if she’d have time for a relationship with her jobs(she works 2) and is pretty much only able to hang out on weekends. I want to make as much as I can out of us, just her jobs make it difficult. And then afterwards we came back to my house and watched some dating show on Netflix called sexy beasts. Watched a few episodes, then she said she had to leave. So I walked her out to her car once again and I swear it felt like we were both about to kiss. She even stood on her cars foot rail to get up to my eyes level(since I’m 6’0 and she’s 5’2”). We ended up hugging and she left. Am I being a baby? Is she giving me opportunities to make moves?
Next time, go on an activity date like to a museum, a hike, a basketball game or throwing axes. It’ll give you more material to figure out where you’re headed.
Kiss her for sure.
Throwing axes sounds fun! More interesting than dinner.
Next date he should go for a kiss. A little hand holding first wouldn't hurt, or an arm about her shoulders.
I am 23yo male. I have not had much relationship experience with…well women. I am talking to a 22yo female, let’s name her Stacy. We were introduced by a friend unexpectedly, we both saw pics of each other and ended up agreeing to meet up. She showed up, I was told she was very nervous beforehand, and I just got in her car in the back seat and we hung out and talked…felt kind of awkward. I’m my head I was more nervous than she was but still contributing an effort. I wasn’t talking much and it was her and Sam(friend that introduced us) we’re just doing alot of the talking to each other. But to my amazement she liked me and wanted to meet up again soon. She got my Snapchat and we started talking to each other via snap since we’re both busy. It goes on and we meet up again, she came to my place and we watched “the package” on Netflix and we just cuddled and talked about ourselves. Afterwards I walked her to her car, hugged her and she left. We talked for a few more days on Snapchat and then agreed to go out to chili’s. So she picked me up(my car is in the shop rn) and we went to chili’s. We talked about a lot there, just talking about our interests and hobbies more and we both brought up past relationships. I’ve been with 1 girl for like 3 months back in high school. She’s been with 2 bf’s one of 2 years and next was 2.5months. Then she breaks away from the convo to ask if she can ask me things honestly, I said “of course”. She asked me what I wanted out of the relationship or what I had in mind to happen between us. Of course idk at this point like i just said “there’s not much I would say no to” basically.(I was wondering in my head, “what do YOU want out of this?) I was very nervous and didn’t want to say anything strong. But we a declared it a first date. She also said she doesn’t if she’d have time for a relationship with her jobs(she works 2) and is pretty much only able to hang out on weekends. I want to make as much as I can out of us, just her jobs make it difficult. And then afterwards we came back to my house and watched some dating show on Netflix called sexy beasts. Watched a few episodes, then she said she had to leave. So I walked her out to her car once again and I swear it felt like we were both about to kiss. She even stood on her cars foot rail to get up to my eyes level(since I’m 6’0 and she’s 5’2”). We ended up hugging and she left. Am I being a baby? Is she giving me opportunities to make moves?
I can appreciate that we guys sometimes have trouble picking up hints and interpreting them correctly. Please allow me to translate for you.
She stood on the running board of a car to get to your eye level. Her only next move is to grab you by your ears, pull your face to hers, and order you to kiss her.
Don't let it come to that. Kiss her next time.
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