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It is both. She knew the ritual and protested, "don't throw me in the briar patch" and if she had any clue to the maturity level of the groom then she should have avoided the cake and the cutting altogether. She is no victim.
So she misunderstood the immaturity of her intended. Good reasons to annul ASAP.
I don't understand how he could have gotten through an entire dating process AND the engagement period, whatever the duration, managing to pretend to be a reasonable, caring person, then suddenly spring this on her. There must have been earlier signs. Maybe immature behavior was an issue near the beginning of their relationship, but he made like he'd matured past it.
Violating your spouse and doing something they said NOT to do and humiliating them? I think not.
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Originally Posted by VTsnowbird
Yeah she should have waited a few years and undergone more jerk behavior from the guy./s
IMO the guys who do this are too immature to get married. They do it for cred with their "Bros" who egg them on. A guy who does this against his wife's wishes does not deserve to have a wife.
Also, as a guest at the wedding I would be really p'd off if the cake was ruined.
Even if it wasn't a good idea or a smart move, it wasn't egregious. That's part of marriage itself - you belong to your spouse. A pie in the face can be a loving, intimate way to show ownership without being abusive at all. It's much like tickling - we are designed to experience tickling only when it's done by others, but not our own selves.
Even if it wasn't a good idea or a smart move, it wasn't egregious. That's part of marriage itself - you belong to your spouse. A pie in the face can be a loving, intimate way to show ownership without being abusive at all. It's much like tickling - we are designed to experience tickling only when it's done by others, but not our own selves.
I would be very upset if I told my husband many times to not do something and he did it anyway. I am still not sure I'd be so upset to the point of divorce...especially if I truly loved him and everything else had been ok.
I'll say it again- I dont think she really wanted to be married in the first place.
I don't understand how he could have gotten through an entire dating process AND the engagement period, whatever the duration, managing to pretend to be a reasonable, caring person, then suddenly spring this on her. There must have been earlier signs. Maybe immature behavior was an issue near the beginning of their relationship, but he made like he'd matured past it.
He probably displayed signs, but there are PLENTY of people, such as bona fide narcissists, who behave perfectly normally until they get you in a situation that they think you cannot get out of.
It is both. She knew the ritual and protested, "don't throw me in the briar patch" and if she had any clue to the maturity level of the groom then she should have avoided the cake and the cutting altogether. She is no victim.
And if he had aimed poorly and banged her head on the table, maybe knocked out a few teeth, would that then be a victim for you?
This is rhetorical. I will say flat out you are wrong. No man has the right to manhandle his wife that way. Ever.
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