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You can give it a try. Just don't give him any money, let him move into your house, or give him access to your children.
There are good men out there in the world. There are also con men who know how to pretend to be good men, but if he is a con man, he is after something, which is why I say don't give him any money or your property or your children. If he is truly a good man, he will stick around anyway. If he is a con man and can' get to your goods, he will bugger off and go and look for another victim.
THat's the easiest way to sort the good from the trickster.
You can give it a try. Just don't give him any money, let him move into your house, or give him access to your children.
There are good men out there in the world. There are also con men who know how to pretend to be good men, but if he is a con man, he is after something, which is why I say don't give him any money or your property or your children. If he is truly a good man, he will stick around anyway. If he is a con man and can' get to your goods, he will bugger off and go and look for another victim.
THat's the easiest way to sort the good from the trickster.
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Originally Posted by fassopony
Go for it if you're game! There are a lot of negative naysayers on this forum and I am not one of them but I will share this little tip of wisdom I have come to learn-
The first few months to about 6 months or so there is a hormonally fueled rosy glow to everything you see about a new person. Everything seems wonderful and fun and the future is perfect and bright.
After that, reality creeps in and you will notice that things will start to annoy you or things he does are not what you want/like, etc. That is fine - either work through them or don't as a couple.
HOWEVER, please do not be like so many stupid girls I know who fall "in love" with who they want a man to be and how they want a man to act. Be sure to fall in love with who he is right now and how he acts right now because you will not change him or if you keep trying your life will be misery with nagging, whining, arguing, etc.
Love is not about how he could make you feel or how he has made you feel during an early honeymoon phase but instead about loving him for who he is as he is. Make your choice with that.
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Originally Posted by oh-eve
You did your due diligence and no flags came up. Now you can stop searching because if you are too critical, you may create some.
Enjoy your time together!!!
Congratulations!!!!
Don't let the nay sayers, bitter divorcees and virgins on here ruin your excitement!!!!
Okay………
So it is a naysayers words to suggest to be careful since this is moving in an expedited fashion. Really? Some of the worst stories in romance from friends and family started similarly by love bombing in the beginning. You shouldn’t shotgun a whole bottle of Whiskey at the beginning of the night and the same applies to dating. Take time and pay attention for the best results and experience.
So it is a naysayers words to suggest to be careful since this is moving in an expedited fashion. Really? Some of the worst stories in romance from friends and family started similarly by love bombing in the beginning. You shouldn’t shotgun a whole bottle of Whiskey at the beginning of the night and the same applies to dating. Take time and pay attention for the best results and experience.
Pffffttt. Just because some go bad does not mean all do. I know many couples who are still together married or just shacking up for years (think over 5-10-15+ years!) after meeting and heading into a relationship right away.
I used to shotgun whiskey all the time and still managed to continue to party until the wee hours back in the day. Some whiskey is for shooting, some is for sipping. Same with tequila. Same with men I suppose.
Go for it an enjoy the ride. The only advice I'd give is to stay the "girlfriend" for a while and not rush into anything more until you really know him.
You can give it a try. Just don't give him any money, let him move into your house, or give him access to your children.
There are good men out there in the world. There are also con men who know how to pretend to be good men, but if he is a con man, he is after something, which is why I say don't give him any money or your property or your children. If he is truly a good man, he will stick around anyway. If he is a con man and can' get to your goods, he will bugger off and go and look for another victim.
THat's the easiest way to sort the good from the trickster.
You did your due diligence and no flags came up. Now you can stop searching because if you are too critical, you may create some.
Enjoy your time together!!!
Congratulations!!!!
Don't let the nay sayers, bitter divorcees and virgins on here ruin your excitement!!!!
I feel the same way. So what if it's only been one week? What are you losing by becoming his girlfriend? Far as I can tell, you lose nothing. I would suggest not moving in together for a few months yet, but what else do have to worry about?
You'll learn more about him as you go along. Enjoy the fun. :-)
It’s probably fine to do so, but if you want more time, tell him you’d like to know him a while longer before naming your relationship.
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