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Actually I have found that the input and advice given on a forum like this can be more helpful and impartial and straightforward and cover a broader range of possible options, and have the poster's best interests at heart, than those close to a person, who know him or her, because those close to us often have an agenda of what they want us to do and try to run our lives based on their own feelings for us and what they think we should do for them.
Whereas total strangers, from different parts of the world, of different ages and genders and cultural backgrounds, can see things from all different angles with nothing to gain from us for giving their advice (except maybe rep) so such advice can be quite helpful and valuable.
Strangers can be more impartial and see the problem more clearly often times than those immersed in it.
I think that her comment was very valid. The O.P. comes across as a little naive about life (like being willing to date a man with 5 children from several different women). And with the internet, one should be very careful about what pictures one posts as once it's out there, you do lose some of your privacy. On one board I'm on, some members have posted pictures that others decided alter with photoshop and make into cruel funny captioned pics. And I think that women should be especially careful with posting their pictures to an audience of complete strangers.
I'm a Business Analyst for a oil & gas company. I make MUCH MORE money than he does. I also thought about it that way....I don't want to be the "head of the household"
OP. You were in a 7 year relationship that just recently ended (5 months ago) and after a 2 month break have been already thinking about getting serious with this new guy (whom you have been dating for 3 months?). And you are only 22? Forget about his problems. You need to slow down and concentrate on your ownself.
Yes, a 7-yr relationship. Everything was great except ONE HUGE PROBLEM... I want a family and he NEVER DID... NEVER. Plus, he was turning 30 this year...and to me, at that age, I would think he may want some but he still doesn't so, I cut him lose. It hurt but I want someone who would like a family SOMEDAY and if it happens, they won't be scared. So, he just wasn't the right one.
Yes, I am focusing on myself but I'm seriously tired of giving my parents money ($500/mo) when I could have saved that for a new home or apartment and paying utility bills...I mean, I do it because they took care of me for years, however I have been doing it since I got me a really good job and what more helping can I do than give them money to go waste in the casino.
Anywho, I love my parents and I am sure they would want me with a guy who will provide for me rather than give me stress.
I'm a Business Analyst for a oil & gas company. I make MUCH MORE money than he does. I also thought about it that way....I don't want to be the "head of the household"
I stand corrected
Sounds like you are thinking the right way. This guy just has too much baggage. Good luck!
I'm a Business Analyst for a oil & gas company. I make MUCH MORE money than he does. I also thought about it that way....I don't want to be the "head of the household"
Please don't get used by this guy... don't be his sugar momma. And you deserve someone way better than him anyway.
Shamerika...First I want to tell you that I am really proud of what you have accomplished. You are ahead of so many ppl who are your age. You sound as though you are poised to have so much in your life. I am greatful that the man in your first relationship was wise enough to see that you continued your education. I am sorry that you were hurt by him, but look at the blessings that he brought into your life. He sounds like a wonderful, wise man. He helped make you the gem that you are today. I hope that you will not settle for the father with 5 children. I believe that you deserve so much better than him. You have time to find him.
Two possibilities here. Either she is a troll laughing at the people who spend their time giving good advice, or....
If her story is for real, then you can bet she will marry him and completely destroy her life. When have you ever heard of anyone taking good advice, especially in matters of the heart...?
This surely can't be the only man left in the world, and even if he is, run as fast as you can. Going through life alone is much preferable to what you will go through with this sweetheart.
Two possibilities here. Either she is a troll laughing at the people who spend their time giving good advice, or....
If her story is for real, then you can bet she will marry him and completely destroy her life. When have you ever heard of anyone taking good advice, especially in matters of the heart...?
This surely can't be the only man left in the world, and even if he is, run as fast as you can. Going through life alone is much preferable to what you will go through with this sweetheart.
Hello everyone. I got lost in translation. So, I was looking for this website which I haven't logged-on in a few months. So, it's September 16, 2008 and guess what? I got this dumbass an apartment two months ago, under MY name and now we have broken up. He couldn't come up with the $700/mo rent and I kicked his ass out but guess what, I REFUSE to pay for that apartment. Unfortunately, I got sucked into this a bit too deep and unfortunately, my credit will be ruined. I wish I can take him to court but I was the one who signed those papers...for 12 MONTHS! I have 9 more months to go.
The apartment is in Humble, TX. This f*ck face got me good. It wasn't anything to deal with the kids or their baby mommas. I went back to my ex-boyfriend who I should have stayed with and all this would have been avoided. I was seeing my ex for 2 weeks but he found out and started telling me all this crap and I wasn't having it. So now I'm left with a $700/mo apartment note on top of my car note $646, insurance, 10 credit cards. I will not pay for that apartment WHAT-SO-EVER. If my credit is ruined, oh well. It hurts but I have learned a very TOUGH lesson that will haunt me the rest of my life.
So, how will this unfortunate incident affect me in the future? Will I be able to buy a house?
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quit being so harsh and downright unfriendly...
I'm a Business Analyst for a oil & gas company. I make MUCH MORE money than he does. I also thought about it that way....I don't want to be the "head of the household"
...I should have listened.
I wish I can take him to court but I was the one who signed those papers...for 12 MONTHS! I have 9 more months to go.
