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Is it a bad sign 1-3 months into a relationship if the person you are dating never asks what you are doing for the weekend on nights you aren't together? For example, you have plans to go out with this person Saturday, but then they never inquire about what you are doing or did on Friday or how your Friday or Saturday was. To me this is a sign of disinterest and indifference.
Maybe asking has become a bit bland or routine. Therefore, the responsibility falls on you to hook your partner into the conversation if that is what you really want to talk about. Then you'll have to play it by ear. In other words, the conversation may have to go in another direction if he is not in the mood. Maybe start planning your next meal. At some point, he should pick up on the fact that you really wanted to share something with him. If he doesn't, then I wouldn't be worried if he is not interested. Instead, he should be worried that I will lose interest in him.
Even when I'm talking to someone on dating apps or starting to date someone its just natural to ask about their weekend or share it. I've never dated someone who was interested in me who never asked what I was up to on weekends. Why would you not want to know about the social life and interests of someone you like? What you do on weekends can tell you about someone and is just something friendly to talk about. Even coworkers ask that question. Its not a thing where you're interrogating a person, but if you have any interest in a person its something that should come up and asked naturally if there is any romantic interest at all IMO.
I knew a man long ago who was dating a woman like that. She was great to be with and went out almost whenever he asked, but this was a good looking guy with lots to offer. One day he confided in me that the fact that she never asked and never told, was beginning to bother him a little.
He married her a year later. 25 years ago.
That lady knew what she was doing. Still does.
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Lots of people don't want to be intrusive. There are ways of asking what people are up to, without asking who they are doing it with, or without appearing the person is asking who they are doing it with.
Lots of people haven't mastered that, however, so they just don't go there.
Even when I'm talking to someone on dating apps or starting to date someone its just natural to ask about their weekend or share it. I've never dated someone who was interested in me who never asked what I was up to on weekends. Why would you not want to know about the social life and interests of someone you like? What you do on weekends can tell you about someone and is just something friendly to talk about. Even coworkers ask that question. Its not a thing where you're interrogating a person, but if you have any interest in a person its something that should come up and asked naturally if there is any romantic interest at all IMO.
Consider the possibility, that he's respecting your right to privacy.
I don't think asking about a person's weekend is that natural and socially obligatory. Most people do ask, but to me it often comes across as a way to find something to talk about. His conversation style might be different.
As others have said, he might not want to come across as intrusive. The context of dating has a way of turning simple matters into major conundrums.
If you did something over the weekend that you want to talk about, bring it up. Ask him what he did over the weekend.
Privacy after 1-3 months of dating and sleeping together? LOL.
some people just want to be polite and not intrusive. There are many socially awkward people out there. I think you are blowing this out of proportion.
If you don't like him anymore, you can just end it. You do not need to look for an excuse to make it his fault.
Even when I'm talking to someone on dating apps or starting to date someone its just natural to ask about their weekend or share it. I've never dated someone who was interested in me who never asked what I was up to on weekends. Why would you not want to know about the social life and interests of someone you like? What you do on weekends can tell you about someone and is just something friendly to talk about. Even coworkers ask that question. Its not a thing where you're interrogating a person, but if you have any interest in a person its something that should come up and asked naturally if there is any romantic interest at all IMO.
Growing up, I don't remember ever being asked about plans; therefore, I never thought it was natural to ask. Some people would act like I was getting into their business. I do ask now, but I had to be in around people who found that natural. It took a while before I become comfortable sharing.
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