Compensating my Ex Husband after years gone by

[Bootsamillion]

Originally Posted by Redflag71

He was there for me when I needed him. We had each others backs but at some point sh*t happened.

He has been leaving me messages on my social media account since 2021, I just checked my account and I saw these messages. All he says is hi and he misses me.

I like email better than anything else with regards to communication even face to face sucks.

Sucker MODE off

He physically abused me and I had to file for a domestic violence restraining order to get away I did not instigate anything. He was drinking 15 beers a day and working 6 night shifts which can be rough on the body clock.

He also resented me for not wanting to have is kid. We fought about it alot but when I offered to get a hysterectomy he offered to get the VAS and he did.

Our sex life was never the same he said itt was different.

Viagra he denied. Yo Himby Bark extract nope.

I hade to file for divorce. He trashed my house and my soul and Sex is a Terrible thing to Waste!

Wow.

[Mister68]

Compensate, oh, you mean to make up time for lost sex?

[Toxic Waltz]

You shoulda split when you found out you had different expectations regarding children, and you should've discovered those differences well before you got married. Not sure why he agreed to get snipped when he wanted kids but what's done is done. What is also done is that he's physically abused you. Can't undo that. With no kids involved there's no reason to reconnect considering your history.