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I'm curious...what were the plans that your son had?
I didn't care what his plans were. I offered to provide him a way to get his things as quickly as possible. He should have either rescheduled (it damn sure wasn't a job interview) or kept his plans after we came back later on that day. He needed to be more proactive, say thank you, and go with me to pick up his stuff. He ran to Mommy to complain. I'm not dealing with that drama anymore. If he comes to me to ask me to do him a favor then he needs to adhere to my timetable not when its best for him
I get that my way of handling things is not your cup of tea, but is it really necessary to take a statement I made from another conversation (which was nothing more than an opinion) and use it to further illustrate your clear bias towards me? I have tried to fill in the blanks to the best of my ability to give a clearer picture of my thinking, and why I feel the way I do. I do however respect your opinion.
I didn't care what his plans were. I offered to provide him a way to get his things as quickly as possible. He should have either rescheduled (it damn sure wasn't a job interview) or kept his plans after we came back later on that day. He needed to be more proactive, say thank you, and go with me to pick up his stuff. He ran to Mommy to complain. I'm not dealing with that drama anymore. If he comes to me to ask me to do him a favor then he needs to adhere to my timetable not when its best for him
But that's not what happened, according to your OP. He didn't come to YOU; YOU went to HIM and TOLD him what HE was going to do, and WHEN he was going to do it, whether he likes it or not!
You went out and got them all by yourself anyway, on the weekend, no less.
Then you dumped items of potential value that could help your son move out or pay more rent.
And when he goes looking for them in another 10 years, when they're worth even MORE, you'll royally pi$$ off your wife and son for your lies of omission (among other ridiculous actions).
But that's not what happened, according to your OP. He didn't come to YOU; YOU went to HIM and TOLD him what HE was going to do, and WHEN he was going to do it, whether he likes it or not!
Yes I understand that I went to him and told him what he was going to do. My point is that he should have taken the reigns and asked me when I was available to go. Instead he got my wife involved to try and fight his battle for him. Since he handled it that way I felt I had to do what I had to do.
You went out and got them all by yourself anyway, on the weekend, no less.
Then you dumped items of potential value that could help your son move out or pay more rent.
And when he goes looking for them in another 10 years, when they're worth even MORE, you'll royally pi$$ off your wife and son for your lies of omission (among other ridiculous actions).
Wow, man of action, you really showed them!
You're correct. He could have asked one of his friends to drive him out to Long Island to sit in traffic and pick up his own things. Since I was asked to pick up his things (irrelevant of what I wanted to do that day) I did what I was asked. HE nor my wife never told me where to bring his things to. Without direction I assumed any option was on the table.
Without direction I assumed any option was on the table.
Did you also assume that the response to any option would be the same? You're smart enough to know that would tick him/them off. Is this your way of teaching them a lesson so that they appreciate you more and/or ask for fewer favors going forward?
This has morphed from a marriage situation into a parent / child issue.
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