Is the thinking of “bad boy” or “bad girl” sorta twisted? (dates, movies)

[Euskalherria]

Originally Posted by SnazzyB

Your experience sounds limited. I'm guessing you're not one of those old people, like I am.

I know a guy...one of the nicest guys I've ever met, who is full-sleeves tatted. Some amazing artwork actually. He's a Heating and Air guy, good union job, has a private plane, and a nice cabin in rural Missouri, owns his own home, is a loving dad to a teenager, AAANNNNDDD he has a Harley.

He's a total sweetheart and kind natured, and if he wasn't just recently married, I'd totally recommend him to ANY woman, including my daughters, if I had daughters. He is most definitely a "good guy".

If 53 - looks 23 - is not 'old' to you, then yeah, you're right, I'm not 'old'.

I don't 'hang' with bikers anyway - be kinda silly for a femboy to be seen around that... besides, wouldn't want to give any of them any 'ideas'. Hint: not ALL bikers are into 'old ladies'... lol.

Anyway. Not anywhere did I say EVERY tatted biker is an . Your friend may be an outlier.

[PJSaturn]

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[zentropa]

Things that could also be seen as "bad" if you are bigoted:

Belonging to a frat
Living together before marriage
Going to Florida for Spring Break
Being divorced
Having a medical marijuana prescription
Having credit card debt
Drinking alcohol
Being openly gay or bi
Going to heavy metal concerts
Wearing a baseball cap backwards
Carrying a licensed concealed weapon
Having long hair as a guy
Dropping out of college
Enjoying rap music
Having unprotected sex

Lets add all these and more to the silly list of gateway activities (like having a tattoo and riding a motorcycle) that indicate a tendency to be a bad boy/girl.

How about it? What do you think?

[SnazzyB]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Things that could also be seen as "bad" if you are bigoted:

Belonging to a frat
Living together before marriage
Going to Florida for Spring Break
Being divorced
Having a medical marijuana prescription
Having credit card debt
Drinking alcohol
Being openly gay or bi
Going to heavy metal concerts
Wearing a baseball cap backwards
Carrying a licensed concealed weapon
Having long hair as a guy
Dropping out of college
Enjoying rap music
Having unprotected sex

Lets add all these and more to the silly list of gateway activities (like having a tattoo and riding a motorcycle) that indicate a tendency to be a bad boy/girl.

How about it? What do you think?

THANK YOU!

I think it's fair to say we all have our biases...but surely, when we live long enough, our biases get challenged . One can't judge a book by the cover, so the saying goes.

[Euskalherria]

Wanna know who taught me to judge - harshly, in particular?

Ready?
Set...
GO!



People who judge *me* - harshly or not.
They taught me *very* well. And when I learn something, it stays. For LIFE.

[GoAmericaGo]

Originally Posted by zentropa

Things that could also be seen as "bad" if you are bigoted:

Belonging to a frat
Living together before marriage
Going to Florida for Spring Break
Being divorced
Having a medical marijuana prescription
Having credit card debt
Drinking alcohol
Being openly gay or bi
Going to heavy metal concerts
Wearing a baseball cap backwards
Carrying a licensed concealed weapon
Having long hair as a guy
Dropping out of college
Enjoying rap music
Having unprotected sex

Lets add all these and more to the silly list of gateway activities (like having a tattoo and riding a motorcycle) that indicate a tendency to be a bad boy/girl.

How about it? What do you think?

I think most people may understand that “bad boy” isn’t strictly limited to tattooed motorcycle riders — that was just a generic description. When a woman says “I like bad boys” or “I want a bad boy” or just subconsciously chooses one — perhaps there is some commonality among what the majority of those women want (and vice versa for men seek women).

[Euskalherria]

Originally Posted by GoAmericaGo

I think most people may understand that “bad boy” isn’t strictly limited to tattooed motorcycle riders — that was just a generic description. When a woman says “I like bad boys” or “I want a bad boy” or just subconsciously chooses one — perhaps there is some commonality among what the majority of those women want (and vice versa for men seek women).

Exactly.

I think it's hilarious certain people are sidestepping this - they know exactly what is meant by 'bad boy' and 'bad girl'.

I will say that it *does* involve a high amount of laughable insecurity on the 'bad' person's part - trying oh-so-hard to be 'tuff' and what-not. Fakery on a grand scale - and so sad that certain impressionable people fail to see right through it.

Yeah, we all know what it means.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by GoAmericaGo

I think most people may understand that “bad boy” isn’t strictly limited to tattooed motorcycle riders — that was just a generic description. When a woman says “I like bad boys” or “I want a bad boy” or just subconsciously chooses one — perhaps there is some commonality among what the majority of those women want (and vice versa for men seek women).

You seem to be saying that women who consciously choose an abusive, sketchy criminal have something in common with other women who choose abusive, sketchy criminals.

Can't argue with that, although it says nothing about women (or men) in general.

So now I'm not at all sure what your OP is arguing or observing, other than the obvious.

[Euskalherria]

Originally Posted by zentropa

You seem to be saying that women who consciously choose an abusive, sketchy criminal have something in common with other women who choose abusive, sketchy criminals.

Can't argue with that, although it says nothing about women (or men) in general.

So now I'm not at all sure what your OP is arguing or observing, other than the obvious.

For the Unstable Squad (R), chaos is exciting. Unpredictability is arousing. Abuse induces uncontrollable bodily undulations. All in the name of FUN and EXCITEMENT.

Responsibility? Stability? Dependability? Reliability? Kindness? Tenderness? Being 'clean'? The hell with all that - boooooring. Who wants THAT?

On a personal note, I have told some people that they are not capable of appreciating me - or someone like me - because of their damn 'issues'. And THAT right there is why 'good' people have difficulty in dating - they are outnumbered by those who are 'bad'. The 'bad' don't want the 'good' - and the 'good' definitely need to stay far away from the 'bad'.

[yoyogirl]

I don't think its badness so much as intensity, which usually becomes something like passion. Its hard to not feel attracted to an intense person especially when they are directing that intensity towards you. Not in a creepy way, no. More like, they are going to write songs and sonnets for you, and take you to the most romantic beach and get down on one knee.

A guy who shows no emotion or is like a stick up the butt kinda guy, a fuddy duddy, is boring just because that can indicate a lack of emotion, lack of passion, or if there is emotion there, there is also an unwillingness to express it and let go. That's a fuddy duddy and sorry but that's not fun for anyone of any gender or orientation.

The problem that arises is, sometimes that intensity and passion can go to an extreme. It can be an unhealthy need for novelty, stimulus, excitement, etc.

But it doesn't have to be. Some people are able to strike a balance with it. You can be sexy and exciting and also be responsible and law abiding.

Most people want that balance. Most people don't want to date a drug dealer or bank robber or abuser or cheater. But most people also don't really want a fuddy duddy who is never interested in trying anything or doing anything and is living an extremely boring life.

It doesn't have to be so extreme in either direction. Most people just want someone that falls in the middle. The best of both worlds. Be sexy and exciting but don't get me killed in the process.