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We used to call these kind of guys that did this sort of thing players when they would play a woman with the idea that there's a relationship here that's wrong you shouldn't do that but if you enter into it telling her that it's only this and it won't ever be more than that chicken cages with you in the hopes that she can change your mind well she played herself.
So we don't really call these guys players anymore or at least not to my knowledge haven't heard that term in years.
We call them Chads now. The difference now is that they tell the woman exactly what it is. No fibbing or trying to make her think it's going to be a commitment. It doesn't matter what you say if she wants you she will share you and still be upset when you won't commit. If I was a car dealership and i let somebody test drive a vehicle for months or years and they didn't buy it if be pretty upset as well.
I think most men dating a 40 year old women do not expect she wants to have kids anymore. If that’s the case, I imagine they’d be impressed with a tight body. However, I don’t think they’d necessarily find it important. Men tend to be easier than women insofar much as being okay with out of shape…just not extremely…
Depends on the status of the man. If the man has plenty options due to his status he is going to value fitness. Men making 250k and up are in demand and they have fit women competing for their attention. It's extremely important to somebody at that status level.
Like I said if it has happened because of my age, that doesn't bother me because it's not something I can change. I've gotten rejected before because of my height (I'm on the taller side) and that never bothered me either.
Same. No one I was interested in rejected me because of my age, or I would have figured that out. If there’s a big difference I’m the one pointing it out, and the last answer was: “I assumed you liked younger men or you wouldn’t be talking to me.”
IME: My perception is entirely based on how I’m feeling about myself. Don’t project your insecurities, let the other person’s actions speak for themselves.
Also, as soon as someone starts quoting statistics, ratios, percentages, no links, celebrity comparisons…pass.
Depends on the status of the man. If the man has plenty options due to his status he is going to value fitness. Men making 250k and up are in demand and they have fit women competing for their attention. It's extremely important to somebody at that status level.
There has always been gold diggers in the world, but would you purposely set out to date one? I always thought the men and women who met each other on dating sites like Seeking Arrangements deserved each other. They both were looking for something very transactional and they found it, but would you actually want that?
So over the course of the last 5 years I have lost a substantial amount of weight (about 60 pounds). As a result I have body image issues because of the hanging skin as a result of the weight loss (that working out does not fix). I haven't had sex yet at this size, and while with my last boyfriend I did have some hanging skin (he didn't seem to care), it's worse now since I've lost more weight since then. I am 40 years old and usually date men my age or older so part me thinks a tight body is not as important to men as they get older, but I just know when the time does come to have sex with someone I will be extremely self conscious and don't want that to get in the way. I am considering getting a tummy tuck, but haven't made a final decision yet.
So I was just wondering how important is a tight body on a woman to men 40 and over?
Sounds like it bothers you more then it might bother someone else. I would get the surgery to remove the loose skin after the large amount of weight loss. If the surgery makes you feel better about yourself why not get it done? Then you won't have to worry about it anymore life too short to waste time your 40 still young.
100%. A guy knows what kind of woman he wants to marry. A guy might even be attracted to a different kind of woman (ie. a bigger woman or an older woman or a woman of a different colour or a woman with children or a woman who dresses sexily) but attraction/connection doesn't necessarily lead him to wanting committment because he's embarrassed about introducing them to friends or family.
Hogwash. Men don't "know what kind of women they want to marry", not if they're actual grownups who are open to meeting and forming actual relationships.
I was looking for smart, funny, and kind. All the rest I left open. Been married 32 years now.
Hogwash. Men don't "know what kind of women they want to marry", not if they're actual grownups who are open to meeting and forming actual relationships.
I was looking for smart, funny, and kind. All the rest I left open. Been married 32 years now.
Well, you are trying to speak for "men" too, and some men certainly do know the kind of woman they want to marry.
For example, you might have a guy who's at the top of his professional game who casually entertains women who are nothing like him. They might lack the polish and look he's searching for, but he won't mind spending time with them if they are cute and fun. The woman he wants, however, is probably more accomplished and presents better. There are men who date like this all the time.
I think most people have a type they will take more seriously for marriage than others. And that could be based on occupation, lifestyle, educational attainment or even looks. I don't think someone is necessarily shallow because they don't want to date a wannabe IG influencer or a professional wrestler, for example.
Americans are generally obsessed with happiness and personal gratification. So it shouldn't be a surprise that physical attraction is so high on the list since attraction is something that typically gives many people a lot of happiness and personal gratification.
Moreover, the individual is at the center of almost everything in America, so that makes it even more logical to focus on the physical since many Americans see marriage as a relationship largely between two individuals rather than a relationship between two families. The extended family component is usually subordinate to personal happiness here where that's not the thinking in a lot of other places.
As long as it's all about "me, me, me," it's hard to fault people for putting a lot of emphasis on looks.
Depends on the status of the man. If the man has plenty options due to his status he is going to value fitness. Men making 250k and up are in demand and they have fit women competing for their attention. It's extremely important to somebody at that status level.
Men making over 250k represent less than 1% of the population. So, I doubt the OP question is directed solely at that group.
If the woman mentioned is just ringing up my items at the store not very important. If the woman is teaching me how to play golf, not very important! If the woman is walking down the street, wants to stop and sit on the porch with me and talk, not very important. Now, If the woman wants to make whoopi, it begins to be very important. HaHaHa!
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