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Old 11-10-2022, 08:43 AM
 
Location: NH
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Without sex, its just friendship.
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Old 11-10-2022, 08:51 AM
 
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Without sex, its just friendship.
Most friends don't cuddle.
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Old 11-10-2022, 08:52 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Why don't you want sex? I find that strange. I don't think you're going to find a boyfriend if you're not willing to give it up at some point..
It's actually not strange at all. There are lots of men out there that have no desire for sex. I was married to one, who was otherwise loving and affectionate, but that was as far as he could go. He was asexual. My best friend's husband had prostate cancer and couldn't have sex after treatment.

There must be loads of men who, for whatever reason, can't or don't want sex. It's not at all unusual.
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Old 11-10-2022, 08:55 AM
 
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It's actually not strange at all. There are lots of men out there that have no desire for sex. I was married to one, who was otherwise loving and affectionate, but that was as far as he could go. He was asexual. My best friend's husband had prostate cancer and couldn't have sex after treatment.

There must be loads of men who, for whatever reason, can't or don't want sex. It's not at all unusual.
I agree I don't think it's all that strange or uncommon, I think it's just not really talked about. A friend of mine is married and hates sex, always has. She said for her it's uncomfortable and hurts, she even saw a doctor about it who said it was because she had too many nerve endings down there, so she had surgery to fix that and still does not enjoy sex. She does have sex with her husband though but I guess it's purely for his enjoyment not hers, which is sad.
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Old 11-10-2022, 08:59 AM
 
Location: Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Humans are wired to desire sex, can we agree on that? While nothing is "wrong" there is something certainly abnormal about having zero desire for sex as long as there are no physical issues (hormonal, etc.) that are causing it. Let's stop with the PC police posts for a day, can we?

"Most" humans are wired to desire sex, but not all...
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Old 11-10-2022, 09:02 AM
 
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I agree I don't think it's all that strange or uncommon, I think it's just not really talked about. A friend of mine is married and hates sex, always has. She said for her it's uncomfortable and hurts, she even saw a doctor about it who said it was because she had too many nerve endings down there, so she had surgery to fix that and still does not enjoy sex. She does have sex with her husband though but I guess it's purely for his enjoyment not hers, which is sad.
Asexuality is much more common in women than men. 86% female - 14% male. 1% of the total population. Than means 3 million asexuals in the US. 420,000 male.
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Old 11-10-2022, 09:20 AM
 
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Why do you want a boyfriend if you don’t want sex?

Isn’t the whole point of a relationship to eventually have children?
What? I've never wanted kids and I've had very few moments where I wasn't in a relationship over the last 25+ years.
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Old 11-10-2022, 09:23 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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It's actually not strange at all. There are lots of men out there that have no desire for sex. I was married to one, who was otherwise loving and affectionate, but that was as far as he could go. He was asexual. My best friend's husband had prostate cancer and couldn't have sex after treatment.

There must be loads of men who, for whatever reason, can't or don't want sex. It's not at all unusual.
Wow, I had no idea.. I could understand if you have had some physical illness, but I just don't get it otherwise. I thought most men thought about sex a thousand times a day until they're like 70...lol
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Old 11-10-2022, 09:26 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Most couples I know who don’t have children wanted to have children but unfortunately were unsuccessful because of fertility issues.
uhm, no. Almost none of my friends have children because they never wanted any. Including me. Dream on
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Old 11-10-2022, 09:28 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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What is the best way to go about this?

Everytime I meet a man,when i tell them I am not into sex,they either tell me about how they are different,and to give them a try,or they ghost.

Are there men out there open to a relationship with no sex?
Where can I find such men?
I would put it into my profile. Otherwise you are wasting other people's time.

Are you okay with them having sex with someone else?
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