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You'd be happy in my situation, lol. My bf (him 37, me 43) is much more into the cuddling part than sex. He says he always has been. We do still have sex, mostly initiated by me, but it's a very small part of our relationship.
We kiss (simple peck on the lips) each other hello after we get home from work. We watch tv in the evenings and on the weekends together. We always sit touching, normally holding hands, or rubbing each other's backs, etc. As it gets later, he'll lie down on the couch with his head in my lap. At night we sleep pressed up against each other, taking turns on being the big spoon. We express our love for each other daily in person and via text. So, although there isn't a lot of sex, there is a ton of intimacy.
The trick of getting sex without cuddling and companionship seems way more popular than the other way around!
That's the hook-up culture. I think the only way you can find a man that'll be compatible with your extremely low sex drive is to search for an asexual man.
You'd be happy in my situation, lol. My bf (him 37, me 43) is much more into the cuddling part than sex. He says he always has been. We do still have sex, mostly initiated by me, but it's a very small part of our relationship.
We kiss (simple peck on the lips) each other hello after we get home from work. We watch tv in the evenings and on the weekends together. We always sit touching, normally holding hands, or rubbing each other's backs, etc. As it gets later, he'll lie down on the couch with his head in my lap. At night we sleep pressed up against each other, taking turns on being the big spoon. We express our love for each other daily in person and via text. So, although there isn't a lot of sex, there is a ton of intimacy.
That's quite unusual for a 37-year-old man, and one with a woman 6 years his senior. Does he admit to - or brag about - or at least recognize - having a relatively low sex drive?
That's quite unusual for a 37-year-old man, and one with a woman 6 years his senior. Does he admit to - or brag about - or at least recognize - having a relatively low sex drive?
Oops, I typed his age in wrong. He's 36. 7-year difference.
Yes, he has been upfront about it from the start. There was a good amount of sex at the start of the relationship, but there was also a lot of alcohol involved. Neither one of us is currently drinking anymore. He suffered from eating disorders as a teen and even into later life. I think part of it is being self-conscious even though he has no reason to be as far as I am concerned. Right now he is also having a lot of issues with carpal tunnel at night. Very painful to him and keeps him from getting good sleep.
He also has a lot of debt and it weighs heavy on him. I know stress can affect your sex life. He's basically told me everything now and seems to be in a better mood since he got some of that off his shoulders. (I *knew* already (was off less than $1K), but there was something cathartic in him going through it out loud to me that has made a difference.)
And I am not talking months without it - just more like 3 times a month sex v 3 times a week sex.
I come from not wanting anyone to touch me and sleeping in my own bedroom for the last 10+ years. Sex was something I did when he wanted it and just basically did what I had to do and then went back to my own room, so it's actually weird for me to be wanting it. (I don't orgasm with a partner, so that has nothing to do with it.)
That's quite unusual for a 37-year-old man, and one with a woman 6 years his senior. Does he admit to - or brag about - or at least recognize - having a relatively low sex drive?
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