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Originally Posted by Auraliea
I wish some of yall would stop blaming the fact that you do stupid stuff or don't know how to act, on your "desire" for women because it just looks silly and immature. Seriously. You are aware of your actions and you are aware of this desire therefore you should have enough sense to behave like a regular human being. Stop blaming "biology" for reckless and irresponsible decisions.
Yeah, same old crud. People being a jerk is because they are jerks, not because of biology, or its how "god made them" or "evolution". It's just that they're jerks, and they have no shame in being jerks in part because they claim they're not to blame for "how they are".
I wish some of yall would stop blaming the fact that you do stupid stuff or don't know how to act, on your "desire" for women because it just looks silly and immature. Seriously. You are aware of your actions and you are aware of this desire therefore you should have enough sense to behave like a regular human being. Stop blaming "biology" for reckless and irresponsible decisions.
This applies here, but it also applies across just about everything.
Take ownership of what you can do and relegate your actions accordingly. Sometimes things happen out of our control, and we deal with it. Should aways do some self-reflection of what you may or may not have done differently when the S hits the fan.
Yeah, same old crud. People being a jerk is because they are jerks, not because of biology, or its how "god made them" or "evolution". It's just that they're jerks, and they have no shame in being jerks in part because they claim they're not to blame for "how they are".
I hope nobody is asking you to accept rude behavior from men.
Oh yeah? Then what we supposed to do about it?
I walk down a street wearing sweats. A man grabs my butt (has happened before) or makes lewd comments to me. What am I supposed to do? Call in the 'moral' police?
Women don't know if a man is going to be rude to her, until it's already done. What are her options after the fact?
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I am just trying to help you understand the "why" of it and the sad reality of the "common" of it. Do you think cat-calling and ogling began in 1900? I am betting cave men were grabbing cave women about 100,000 years ago.
I already KNOW it's common. But what can be done about it?
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So it always comes down to culture and behavior. We always had a segment of men that were rude to women. Even men who aren't typically rude to women, can be susceptible to mob behavior when they are in a group of guys who are all being rude. They may not join in, but they very well might when they ordinarily would not do so. Culture used to be that the lower blue-collar type guys were guilty of this kind of behavior while most other men did not indulge in it for many reasons, from it being wrong to not wanting to scare women off.
That's THEIR issue; not a woman's issue. Those men need to learn a bit of self-control, and not expect women to 'control' them...and later complain about how women are trying to control them.
Those men need to accept responsibility for their own behavior. Period. If those men don't want to be 'controlled' by a woman...or ANYONE ELSE...then they should learn how to control themselves.
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Our culture has been going downhill for a very long time. You don't have to accept that either, but that is a fact.
I believe that. I've said before that I believe that culture in general is devolving.
Any guy who prefers porn to your in-person presence - good grief - has questionable taste to say the least...
Why?
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