At what point is it cheating (girls, husband, kissing, call)
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Originally Posted by fresnochick
What if its a woman playing around with another woman?.........is that cheating?...............my bad guys, should i list this under jerry springer topics.
Its either cheating or the chance of a lifetime. AAH! What am I saying?? (chases the id back into the subconscious with a stick)
While some things might be hurtful, depending on the significant other's world view, they don't equate to cheating. That would be flirting and viewing porn. I think I'd get upset once it got to the phone or internet sex stage. I'm not sure what "chatting online" or "talking over the phone" choices really meant. I have a good, male friend with whom I chat quite often. He's married with his own children, but we're still close friends.
Now, my husband believes that there is no such thing as cheating unless you are married. So, a girlfriend can't possibly cheat on a boyfriend or vice versa, because there was no real commitment there anyway.
I once met a guy who believes that marriages aren't valid until you have children- even if it's a medical issue or a monetary issue. So, I bet he takes my husband's viewpoint a step further.
I put chatting and phone talk up there becuase I know women who would consider that cheating. My wife forbids me from chatting with woman but it is ok for her to chat online and phone talk with guys. She has a major double standard. I love her anyways. I like cpg35223 thought on this. Now my wife is a very friendly woman who makes friends with everyone she meets. I have no problem with her chatting, phoning, hugging or even a light kiss. She has done all of this before in front of me. She chats everyday at least 8 hours a day. If she were to have internet sex, it really wouldn't bother me as long as it didn't go to the next stage of meeting. As far as her, I would have to say deep kissing. In her eyes towards me it would be flirting, again, gotta love her double standard.
By the way, at work the guys would go farther than the women.
What if its a woman playing around with another woman?.........is that cheating?...............my bad guys, should i list this under jerry springer topics.
your poll was a lil graphic for me. cheating is a word that people don't wana use when they know they are doin it. they will go to great lengths to get "clarification".
from a little boy in 6th sense "people hear and see just what they want to".
It's cheating the minute you are worried about whether you're doing something wrong.
Great Answer! That's why you have a conscience. Only you know what you're up against, what your life is like, what you have been through, etc.
I actually was on the other end of this twice - the first time, the guy did me a huge favor. Good riddance. The second time was a shocker but what doesn't kill ya makes you stronger, right?
Any of the items listed are red flags. If you care to, do something about it.
If you don't care, that's a statement too.
If I could have checked all the answers given there, I would have, seeing as I couldn't... I checked only the least of all that I would still consider cheating. That was flirting. If you are in a relationship with someone and that relationship is exclusive, then in my opinion, you have no business "flirting" with anyone else.
And to quote what was said by 3 other's that I also agree with....
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Originally Posted by pirate girl
It's cheating the minute you are worried about whether you're doing something wrong.
The conscience is a wonderful thing. Often if you are worried or doubting if what you are doing is wrong, it's because a lot of times, it is. The conscience is that small inner voice warning you. Unfortunately too many tune it out, rather than listen keenly for it.
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
If you have a conversation with somebody that you wouldn't have in the presence of your significant other, then you've crossed the line.
Very well said. Nothing should be being done or said in private or with anyone else, that you would not want your partner walking in on or overhearing.
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Originally Posted by Miss Martha
And to expand a little, it is also interacting with another person in a way that would hurt or bother you if you were to see your spouse/significant other interacting with another person.
Also very well said. No room for double standards. If it is not something I would want to walk in on my partner doing or overhear him saying, then I should not be doing it either.
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