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Seriously, its nuts, I've done more bridal / nursery gift giving since covid for people in their early 40s over the past couple of years than I think I did for friends in all their 30s. Serious covid baby boom.
We can expect a spike in kids with autism and developmental disabilities coming up.
I can't even imagine just starting with a kid in my forties. I was starting to slow down at that age, eyes getting worse, aches and pains starting, slowing metabolism, needing more sleep, etc. Then, a screaming puking up half the night bundle of joy arrives? Pass.
We can expect a spike in kids with autism and developmental disabilities coming up.
All the couples I know who have had children in their 40's, the kids are developmentally and cognitively on track. Yet, I know a number of couples of who had children in their 20's and 30's and they are delayed. I understand scientifically a women's eggs deteriorate once she hits her 30's but I'm just speaking from what I've seen first hand.
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I can't even imagine just starting with a kid in my forties. I was starting to slow down at that age, eyes getting worse, aches and pains starting, slowing metabolism, needing more sleep, etc. Then, a screaming puking up half the night bundle of joy arrives? Pass.
Some people are in better shape than others at that age, so this does not apply to all people in their 40's.
All the couples I know who have had children in their 40's, the kids are developmentally and cognitively on track. Yet, I know a number of couples of who had children in their 20's and 30's and they are delayed. I understand scientifically a women's eggs deteriorate once she hits her 30's but I'm just speaking from what I've seen first hand.
Some people are in better shape than others at that age, so this does not apply to all people in their 40's.
But our bodies slow down with age, we just don't bounce back from injuries and such as we did in youth, and by fortysomething let's face it, it isn't uphill, it is middle age and physically more risky for mom and baby than in 20s&30s. I suspect it isn't just women's eggs that are not as robust as they were at 25 but men's sperm as well. I just wouldn't chance it even with good health, but many people do it now.
I'm fascinated that some people are still on the fence at that age. See it on dating sites a 46 year old woman has "not sure" in profile about wanting children. ??? Maybe they mean not sure if they want a man with kids but it could also mean pregnancy for them probably with IVF and all that. For a man it could mean paying child support into their retirement years.
I think you are taking this too seriously. It was just a silly comment to get what he wanted.
I was viewing it from the OP's perspective. She was the one trying to avoid a pregnancy. I think her perspective deserves to be taken seriously, but as I said earlier, the comments about her partner's perspective were insightful.
A family member had her second child at 38, she was classified as a "geriatric mother" and cautioned constantly by the hospital staff about her physical condition. And she was in great shape.
We can expect a spike in kids with autism and developmental disabilities coming up.
I can't even imagine just starting with a kid in my forties. I was starting to slow down at that age, eyes getting worse, aches and pains starting, slowing metabolism, needing more sleep, etc. Then, a screaming puking up half the night bundle of joy arrives? Pass.
Not all people age as quick as you have. I'm over 60 now and not feeling anywhere what you experienced at 40.
Not all people age as quick as you have. I'm over 60 now and not feeling anywhere what you experienced at 40.
My son was 6 when I was 40 and I had no issues.
Ha, nice jab, not buying it. We ALL do, it is normal part of nature. Your eyes are not what they were at twenty, your ligaments, brain, organs, cells are not what they were- sorry, whether you "feel" it or not. That decline starts before 40, it's middle age. You are old now just like me and most others on these forums. If you feel the same at 40 50 60 as you did at 20 then you were unhealthy at 20.
But our bodies slow down with age, we just don't bounce back from injuries and such as we did in youth, and by fortysomething let's face it, it isn't uphill, it is middle age and physically more risky for mom and baby than in 20s&30s. I suspect it isn't just women's eggs that are not as robust as they were at 25 but men's sperm as well. I just wouldn't chance it even with good health, but many people do it now.
I'm fascinated that some people are still on the fence at that age. See it on dating sites a 46 year old woman has "not sure" in profile about wanting children. ??? Maybe they mean not sure if they want a man with kids but it could also mean pregnancy for them probably with IVF and all that. For a man it could mean paying child support into their retirement years.
Once you hit your twenties you don't bounce back from injuries as quick as you do in your childhood and teen years. However if you keep yourself in fairly good shape you shouldn't have much of an issue bouncing back from small injury in your 40's, maybe in your 70's it can be a challenge. Yes, sperm and eggs age but if someone in their early 40's to mid 40's wants a child I see nothing wrong with trying.
I understand for you the thought having kids in your 40's in incomprehensible, but understand that is not the case for everyone else that age and that should not come as a shock.
Ha, nice jab, not buying it. We ALL do, it is normal part of nature. Your eyes are not what they were at twenty, your ligaments, brain, organs, cells are not what they were- sorry, whether you "feel" it or not. That decline starts before 40, it's middle age. You are old now just like me and most others on these forums. If you feel the same at 40 50 60 as you did at 20 then you were unhealthy at 20.
Just an FYI I'm 40, my eyesight is exactly the same as it was when I was 20. I can't speak for everything else, but I honestly don't physically feel that different than I did in my 20's. Only thing is I may not be able to pull off going at clubbing at 11pm and coming home at 5am haha but that's ok because I didn't even enjoy doing that back then lol.
Ha, nice jab, not buying it. We ALL do, it is normal part of nature. Your eyes are not what they were at twenty, your ligaments, brain, organs, cells are not what they were- sorry, whether you "feel" it or not. That decline starts before 40, it's middle age. You are old now just like me and most others on these forums. If you feel the same at 40 50 60 as you did at 20 then you were unhealthy at 20.
Funny....my dentist had that thinking. Asked "What prescriptions are you on ?"...not IF I was on any.
I replied "none" and he asked "Are you sure ?"
I laughed and said...well I do take One A Day vitamins if you need to put something down.
Then he told me I was a rare one. So I can understand your disbelief.
Of course you slow down...but at 40 I had a 6 year old.
What age were your kids when you were 40 ?
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