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I'm an old hippie but I swear these under-30 folks have managed to invent romantic complication even we wouldn't have thunk up!
I think the whole "FWB" concept is highly dubious out of the gate. You're going to have an ongoing "situation" where you engage in the most intimate behavior humans can come up with, but you're just going to "remain friends" and when the other one finds someone they want to bond with intellectually, physically, spiritually and emotionally, you're just going to say "Wow, cool, good for you"??? Sorry, ain't gonna happen.
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I'm an old hippie but I swear these under-30 folks have managed to invent romantic complication even we wouldn't have thunk up!
I’m just over 30 & I’ve never had a “FWB” thing. I’ve had casual relationships that weren’t headed for marriage in my early 20s but we never said “FWB” because most dating doesn’t lead to marriage anyway….especially at that age! We didn’t know it wasn’t going to go anywhere. Why plan to have sex with friends tho? I know it can happen spontaneously…an “oh ___” moment! BUT to stay “FWB” or be happy with that is super weird to me. I honestly thought it was something older ppl look for. Maybe they are jaded or have given up on finding something more. Younger ppl who aren’t committed just “hang out” tho or casually date.
But if they really just saw themselves as friends, they wouldn’t be asking why their friend is talking to them like any other friend…like the O.P. It doesn’t have to be analyzed. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Originally Posted by rabbit33
I think the whole "FWB" concept is highly dubious out of the gate. You're going to have an ongoing "situation" where you engage in the most intimate behavior humans can come up with, but you're just going to "remain friends" and when the other one finds someone they want to bond with intellectually, physically, spiritually and emotionally, you're just going to say "Wow, cool, good for you"??? Sorry, ain't gonna happen.
ITA. IMO, the O.P. shows how dubious it can be.
Last edited by TashaPosh; 02-23-2023 at 02:51 PM..
He probably did want to see your reaction, because maybe he's a little jealous. Usually in a FWB situation, one of the partners in emotionally connected to the other and that's why they allow themselves to be used like that. They don't want to let go and move on. They will take whatever they can get and this is his reaction to the emotional pain he is in, by being in this FWB with you.
You will have sex with him but that's it. He will never be anything more than a toy to be played with and discarded, until something better comes along. Engaging in a FWB is a tall tale sign of your own emotional issues, as you allow yourself to be used as well. You should stop this with your FWB because it's obviously hurting him and it's not fair for you to continue on as this will always, always end up bad.
Agree with all this. At some point based on subsequent posts he's developed feelings for you. It usually happen when one party is truly disengaged and only into the sex. Seems it usually happens with a man, but in this case it's with a woman.
Agree with all this. At some point based on subsequent posts he's developed feelings for you. It usually happen when one party is truly disengaged and only into the sex. Seems it usually happens with a man, but in this case it's with a woman.
I'm an old hippie but I swear these under-30 folks have managed to invent romantic complication even we wouldn't have thunk up!
I think the whole "FWB" concept is highly dubious out of the gate. You're going to have an ongoing "situation" where you engage in the most intimate behavior humans can come up with, but you're just going to "remain friends" and when the other one finds someone they want to bond with intellectually, physically, spiritually and emotionally, you're just going to say "Wow, cool, good for you"??? Sorry, ain't gonna happen.
Yeah. Honestly, I find the whole concept of "FWB" to be gross.
To the OP: If this is truly a FWB situation, who they saw at the store, who they talked to, who they saw your ex with, blah blah, why are you questioning motive? This isn't a serious relationship, so no need to act like they need to tell you everything, and no need to care what they say, Is that not the point of FWB? It's shallow and superficial, so who cares.
Right, and FWB is not only gross, it's awkward. I tried it once when I was very young. Highly awkward. Fortunately neither of us was invested. I would have felt bad if the guy had developed feelings for me. It was bad enough that he wanted to continue and I didn't. And unfortunately it did affect the friendship.
The folly of youth. But some people do it no matter what age they are. I guess sometimes it works out. *shrug*
Agree with all this. At some point based on subsequent posts he's developed feelings for you. It usually happen when one party is truly disengaged and only into the sex. Seems it usually happens with a man, but in this case it's with a woman.
He just doesn't want to lose his weekend cook, cleaner, and blowjob/drinking buddy. I guess those are "feelings."
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BUT to stay “FWB” or be happy with that is super weird to me. I honestly thought it was something older ppl look for. Maybe they are jaded or have given up on finding something more. Younger ppl who aren’t committed just “hang out” tho or casually date.
