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I suggest you watch the Red Dwarf episode Me Squared for a taste of how that would turn out.
This is why I love you, scribbles.
Platonically of course.
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To the question of the OP... It depends what is meant exactly by the question. When I was dating, before I remarried, I realized that I would not date me. What I meant by that then, was that I wouldn't date someone who had the issues and problems that I was dealing with at that time. But that is a circular situation, because the main reason that I would not have dated someone who, for instance...
...was raising young teen kids,
...was in the process of separating from a dangerous ex, and even still lived in his house,
...had their finances in a huge mess from the prior year of chaos,
...was a smoker,
...is because of the fact that those were problems that I had, and was trying to deal with. And the last thing that I needed or wanted, was someone else bringing those same problems into the same scene and multiplying them, so that I had to not only manage my own burdens but theirs as well.
Of course, everyone has struggles. The man I married had struggles of his own, that some women might have considered to be deal breakers, and if one asked him if he would date himself or consider himself to be a hot commodity in the dating scene, he would have replied in the strong negative. Mainly on the basis of "attractiveness." But I could find him attractive, and he could overlook my challenges that I was juggling in life.
So that whole, "if you would not marry yourself why would anyone else marry you?" notion just doesn't really fly. They would, precisely because they are NOT you, and there are different things that carry more weight in the decisions of different people.
Husband was thrilled to find me because we share a lot of interests (including the nerdy stuff - Scribbles, I had to introduce him to Red Dwarf though, I've got all the DVDs, but he got me into Farscape)... And because I had my tubes tied and I was physically attractive to him, younger but not SO much younger as to seem like a child to him or anything. (We were 30s/50s.) So with the good things that mattered to him in place, and my stated commitment to "stow my own baggage" and not make my problems his problems... I, on the other hand, would not trust any potential partner to keep their life problems from becoming mine to deal with.
Now if the OP's question was along the lines of the weird thing someone mentioned here of "marrying yourself" like...just...what, being alone but having some kind of a ceremony? Why a ceremony, that seems totally weird? Someone just had some sort of fetishized dream of the dress and cake and being Princess for a Day or something I suppose. Not my thing. I could get being happily single, like, making yourself your #1 priority and being committed to yourself. I've known a lot of divorced women who pretty much were like, "yeah I don't think I need a partner in my life, I'm good." But you don't need to waste money on a wedding event to do that. You can just throw a dress up party with cake whenever you feel like it for any reason you want, if you have the money to blow on that. Kind of a benefit of being single and child free, no? Not something the women I am thinking of would do, though...they tend to be quiet introverts, happy at home with their houseplants and dogs and Netflix and wine.
I would for sure. I find myself entertaining and I really enjoy my own company. Of course I would change a few t things. If you can't understand this question, don't feel guilty. about not responding. I heard this question in a dating show and found the question both profound and meaningful. If I wouldn't marry myself why would anyone else? The answer to my own question is that I have been married for 50 years, so I did find someone else who appreciates/appreciated me.
While the funny answer is, yes, I'm awesome. I think it is an important thing to be able to actually love oneself. Of course there are things about me I would change. Some are superficial physical things, others are some of my own admitted baggage. But overall I think I am a great partner and best friend to my wife. I love and support her, we do a lot of fun things together, and we laugh all the time. Overall, I like myself and I am glad my amazing wife likes me too.
A female version of me would be VERY like my late Mom, who I loved dearly - as my mom, OK - but a relationship with a female version of me would feel rather Oedipal, if you get my drift.
And from a practical point of view, as noted in previous posts, yeah, I would rather partner up with someone with similar overall interests but with complimentary strong skill/ability/knowledge rather than just duplicate my own. Someone with for example strong accounting and business skills like Sonic - I'm not so great with that.
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