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I recently met a woman after long time. She was educated, hot, charming at beginning, smelled and tasted good, giving compliments, wanted to hang out often, great long discussion over wine. We both spoke together in other language for us, as are both expats, however I felt finally somebody interesting.
It was hard not to give her too much energy - her charm was energizing, spend time with her, as she was giving as well, texting daily, calls etc. She was teasing me, touching me, and sometimes roasting in sarcastic funny way, which soon became the small insults. After some time I start to question myself if my decision are even valid, and my self esteem went down.
After two months, something happen to my body. Some kind of intuition, I was anxious, tired along her, wanted to escape for unknown reason. I wanted to kiss her, cuddle, but she did not let me. Only when she was high (I later found out that she smoked weed daily)
Later, every issue that I want to address she turns to me or just changed the topic.
So seem I lower the energy for her, and tried to address what I miss, and even mentally tried to set boundaries.
In a day she was gone. From one day to another and said all those nasty things that she was not sure about me, sex was bad, everything took me long time, she feels no chemistry and normally she cuddles and kiss a lot.
Was it some kind of mind protection of mine, or energy that I was not giving anymore, so she went for new target?
Sounds like she was giving you what the guys today call sh*t tests and you failed. You were supposed to handle those first little insults in a way to give them right back to her, and show some backbone.
But we shouldn't have to play those games as adults so it was no big loss.
I am always wary of people who love bomb others early in a relationship. I'd rather the relationship have a nice starting point and evolve nicely over time.
I recently met a woman after long time. She was educated, hot, charming at beginning, smelled and tasted good, giving compliments, wanted to hang out often, great long discussion over wine. We both spoke together in other language for us, as are both expats, however I felt finally somebody interesting.
It was hard not to give her too much energy - her charm was energizing, spend time with her, as she was giving as well, texting daily, calls etc. She was teasing me, touching me, and sometimes roasting in sarcastic funny way, which soon became the small insults. After some time I start to question myself if my decision are even valid, and my self esteem went down.
After two months, something happen to my body. Some kind of intuition, I was anxious, tired along her, wanted to escape for unknown reason. I wanted to kiss her, cuddle, but she did not let me. Only when she was high (I later found out that she smoked weed daily)
Later, every issue that I want to address she turns to me or just changed the topic.
So seem I lower the energy for her, and tried to address what I miss, and even mentally tried to set boundaries.
In a day she was gone. From one day to another and said all those nasty things that she was not sure about me, sex was bad, everything took me long time, she feels no chemistry and normally she cuddles and kiss a lot.
Was it some kind of mind protection of mine, or energy that I was not giving anymore, so she went for new target?
This happens a lot when first dating. Seems people get all excited about someone and it seems so good then you spend a little more time together and true colors come out.
She made you feel bad about yourself. That is Red Flag #1
She insults you. Red Flag #2
She doesn't listen to you. Red flag #3
She is not into you like you were her and didn't take things the way that you did. Therefore, she's gone and you're left confused.
No more confusion! She's not the one for you. Hold your head up high and move on, you will soon wonder what you ever saw in her.
Someone mentioned **** tests. I would immediately end any contact with a person that pulls that. When someone does that they are measuring you. You are better off without her.
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