Is Happily Ever After Possible?? (kids, personality, friends, personal)

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by New2Oro

I don't want to get married if divorce or unhappiness is inevitable. I don't ever want to fall out of love with my man, or him with me. Is that an unrealistic expectation?

Nothing is inevitable except death.

That being said, having expectations is usually dangerous in that sooner or later you'll encounter disappointment.

Every day that we live changes us. Every moment, we become something different. We do not, cannot hold onto ourselves - how then can we ever expect to hold onto someone else?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Nothing is inevitable except death.

That being said, having expectations is usually dangerous in that sooner or later you'll encounter disappointment.

Every day that we live changes us. Every moment, we become something different. We do not, cannot hold onto ourselves - how then can we ever expect to hold onto someone else?

Man, I feel sorry for some of you cynical types!

[Rcm58]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Now I see what the secret is... Just pulling your leg - I know it's a typo.

In college all my papers came back with red ink....why should you be any different...lol

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

That being said, having expectations is usually dangerous in that sooner or later you'll encounter disappointment.

Well, some of us who have expectations also give our all.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Man, I feel sorry for some of you cynical types!

Not cynical - realistic.

[Rcm58]

I don't think expectations are dangerous, everyone makes mistakes, I do think putting someone on a pedestal is.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Well, some of us who have expectations also give our all.

Cassius:
"The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves, that we are underlings."

~Julius Caesar (I, ii, 140-141)

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

I don't think expectations are dangerous, everyone makes mistakes, I do think putting someone on a pedestal is.

So you wouldn't say that putting someone on a pedestal is an expectation?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

Not cynical - realistic.

Not MY reality

[New2Oro]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

We do not, cannot hold onto ourselves - how then can we ever expect to hold onto someone else?

I don't feel the need to hold on to the one I love. I trust that I can count on him being close by his own accord. I believe he will change over the years, as will I... and I believe I will keep loving him more and more every day- just as I have over the last 4 years.

The positive posts made me smile and I appreciate the good advice so far. Thanks : ) Keep them coming.