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Every time I get together with my parents/sibling they ask if I am dating someone. It get's annoying to the point that I just lie and tell them that I am dating someone. I would think that would stop the question but it actually just got worse. I get it they ask because they care but does it need to be every time we hang out. Can they just be happy that I am present and enjoy the moment....
In a recent article I read listing subjects not to bring up, it was noted that asking about someone's relationship status is considered very rude and no one's business. Apparently some people don't realize this. My mid 30's son has Asperger's (family isn't aware) and has never had a girlfriend, but wants one. When we visit his grandmother she'll say things like, "I wonder if I'll live to see you get married". Or, on the other side of the family, there was a recent wedding, and someone made a comment to my son making him uncomfortable.
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or if your single, your relationship status?
Every time I get together with my parents/sibling they ask if I am dating someone. It get's annoying to the point that I just lie and tell them that I am dating someone. I would think that would stop the question but it actually just got worse. I get it they ask because they care but does it need to be every time we hang out. Can they just be happy that I am present and enjoy the moment....
As someone who has had to deflect from that question forever, you did the worst thing by saying your are dating someone. That will open Pandora’s box of very invasive questioning. Probably better to say you were talking to someone but now are not. I did that with my mom this past weekend and it did the job in shutting her up.
As a mid 30s single who has pretty much given up active hope on a relationship, I get it. I resent being treated like I have a deadly form of COVID that needs emergency care just because I’m single and don’t date much. I’m in a really nice apartment, I earned a Master’s degree while working 50 hours a week, I travel pretty often. But none of that means to people since I can’t master obtaining a romantic relationship. Ending rant.
Cant ask about relationship status.
Cant ask about having kids
Cant ask about employment/career/money
Dont talk about politics
Dont talk about religion
What are safe topics/questions when speaking with family and friends?
Cant ask about relationship status.
Cant ask about having kids
Cant ask about employment/career/money
Dont talk about politics
Dont talk about religion
What are safe topics/questions when speaking with family and friends?
Never said can't ask anything but when it asked every time we see each other it gets annoying.
Never said can't ask anything but when it asked every time we see each other it gets annoying.
Have you tried "No. How about you, you seeing anyone new?"
Or make up some elaborate obvious lie each time like a celebrity, a prince, a secret agent, and go on about it. Or go the other way, an inmate, an addict, a married man or woman, etc. Maybe they will get tired of fabrications and stop asking.
Cant ask about relationship status.
Cant ask about having kids
Cant ask about employment/career/money
Dont talk about politics
Dont talk about religion
What are safe topics/questions when speaking with family and friends?
Your local sports teams/recent games
A recent movie or concert you've seen
What happened the other night on Survivor / favorite contestant on The Voice, etc
Recent purchases or something you're looking to buy
A funny anecdote
Restaurant you've been to recently
Your local sports teams/recent games
A recent movie or concert you've seen
What happened the other night on Survivor / favorite contestant on The Voice, etc
Recent purchases or something you're looking to buy
A funny anecdote
Restaurant you've been to recently
There's all kinds of topics that aren't taboo.
What if you are not into sports, if no one else has seen the movie, concert or TV show?
Maybe it's me but when I get together with family or friends I haven't seen in a while, I'm also interested in their personal life, well-being and such, not just what they watched on TV or bought at the Wal Mart.
Of course, if I know it upsets them to inquire about their relationships I do not ask.
It just has never been taboo in my family. I have a great nephew that broke up with his gf over a year ago. When we see each other at family dinners or out occasionally I ask if he is seeing anyone, he sayS nope, and thats the end of it. Everyone always asks my youngest gson if he is still seeing that girl (they broke up for about 2 weeks a year ago), he says yes and that's the end of it. Till next time. When anyone asks me if I'm dating, I look down and spit on the ground and thats the end of it.
Any time they see me. I don't come around often so it's always part of the standard "catch up" questions. I've gotten to the point now where I don't care. I think some of them have gotten the hint that I'm always going to say no, so they don't ask. But I do know if I ever say yes....they're probably going to call CNN news. Just how some people are.
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. It get's annoying to the point that I just lie and tell them that I am dating someone. I would think that would stop the question but it actually just got worse
. I get it they ask because they care but does it need to be every time we hang out. Can they just be happy that I am present and enjoy the moment....
to people since I can’t master obtaining a romantic relationship. Ending rant.
