Spouse corrects me in public (wife, husband, personality, divorced)
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Maybe I am just not as smart or worldly as my DH but this gets on my nerves. He is constantly correcting me when I just make casual statements….in front of people.
Examples: I might mispronounce a word, I might say we moved into this house in June, I might say I used to have a BMW X1. He will then be sure to immediately use the correct pronunciation, he will correct me and say “no, we moved late May” or “Actually the car was an X5.”~ always when we are with other people.
Several times over the past 20 years I have challenged him and said later “Why do you think it mattered if we moved here the last week of May or in June as far as what we were discussing with the Smiths?” And he’ll say “well, you were wrong.” But I find it embarrassing that he feels a need to publicly correct me on inconsequential things. It feels very passive aggressive…..something he denies. I’ve told him I don’t like it but he continues to do this pretty regularly.
I can see both sides. I would absolutely hate to be corrected constantly in front of others.
On the other hand, my mom for many years frequently got stuff wrong. She had a bit of social anxiety and would engage her mouth before her brain. She, too, would get annoyed if corrected. It evolved into her making stuff up to appear more interesting. Now she is 87 and we have no idea if what she says is true but she is so embarrassing to us we just cringe when she talks to people in public.
I think if he says it in a non-confrontational tone it's fine.
I would do that.
If my mate would say ... we went to Hawaii in November, I would say ... actually it was October.
And then you say ... Oh it WAS October, or ... NO it was November. What's wrong with that?
Either way, you're not getting divorced over it, and TBH nobody really cares.
Most couples deal with similar minor issues in terms of personality clash.
And many couples who stay together for the duration have much bigger clashes.
One couple I know, the husband downright lies or exaggerates about stories in the past. And they're going to stay together, and ... it doesn't matter what anybody on CD Forum has to say.
Maybe I am just not as smart or worldly as my DH but this gets on my nerves. He is constantly correcting me when I just make casual statements….in front of people.
Examples: I might mispronounce a word, I might say we moved into this house in June, I might say I used to have a BMW X1. He will then be sure to immediately use the correct pronunciation, he will correct me and say “no, we moved late May” or “Actually the car was an X5.”~ always when we are with other people.
Several times over the past 20 years I have challenged him and said later “Why do you think it mattered if we moved here the last week of May or in June as far as what we were discussing with the Smiths?” And he’ll say “well, you were wrong.” But I find it embarrassing that he feels a need to publicly correct me on inconsequential things. It feels very passive aggressive…..something he denies. I’ve told him I don’t like it but he continues to do this pretty regularly.
Well you have expressed his feelings to him and he still do it regularly. Sound like he doesn't care about your feelings . Question is, Is this a really MAJOR RED FLAG to you that you can give him ultimatum if he doesn't change then you can no longer have a relationship with him....?
I think if he says it in a non-confrontational tone it's fine.
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Even after she's told him repeatedly that it bothers her? His insistence on continuing the behavior knowing how she feels about it shows a lack of respect for her feelings.
Even after she's told him repeatedly that it bothers her? His insistence on continuing the behavior knowing how she feels about it shows a lack of respect for her feelings.
People are largely incapable of change.
The husband is incapable of not correcting because certain people are trained that way.
The wife is incapable of not taking something relatively harmless as a slight.
Posters on CD Forum are incapable of not posting the same neurotic threads over, and over, and over... and so on, and so on.
So, generally you deal, compromise, and die.
And as far as a relationship issue in terms of magnitude, I'd say 1 out of 10. Maybe 1.5.
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