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Let her go I carried a torch for a lost love for 20 years myself all it did was make my life & my relationships harder. Yes, it does hurt I even looked the girl I was crazy about up & we took off from where we left off. Sadly she wasn't the same person you need to find a way to get over her. I still think of her from time to time but not in the way that I used too. Sooner or later if she hasn't already your wife will pick up on it. This can only hurt your marriage worse I sense that you don't want that. Maybe you need to talk to someone about this if you can't move past it on your own.
he posted this in 2008 so your a bit late to give him advice and the situation he's in goes FAR beyond getting over someone from his past.
This is common with "first love." It is idealized. The first sexual experiences (or the first meaningful sexual experience is powerful). Many people mistakenly conclude that strong physical love = true love or soul mates, when really it is just strong physical attraction, which has a biological impetus.
Now I know that real "love" would be meshing with someone on all levels: Spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, physically - and compatibility and values are also key.
There must be something sorely lacking in your "now" life to cause you to try to go back to the past.
It is a real mistake. The past is gone and pining for it is wasted time.
It sounds like you are real romantic.
I would look up "Four on the Enneagram" because what you're describing is the classic "Four" sin . . . which is lust for the "one that got away."
It is a fallacy - another person cannot complete you - but I doubt any Four could be convinced of that.
I know the feeling of love lost long ago .
Time does not heal that wound . especially when one reopens the wound and fantasy kicks in . Should a, could a, would a.
sorry I can't do this ...........
In a twin soul relationship often 1 or both "run" once they initally meet. The connection is just too intense that if both of their halves aren't completley grounded and "ready" for reunion than they'll just run from the situation. Often times after the intial contact you'll find long periods of time before they reconnect. 10, 20yrs isn't uncommon espeically when 1 or both are aware the other half is married. One of the key attributes of a twin soul relationship is that one won't interfere in the happiness of their twin if they know they are married. Would explain why he never contacted her and vice versa. Just wanted to put that concept out there. 99% of the time this won't be the case but if someone has indeed met their twin and aren't aware of this type of relationship they'll be going through a lot of pain that could easily be eased with a little reading.
mmm I don't know dude. I know this is your name and everything, but I'm skeptical.
Well, even if it is 4 years old, it's one of the most eloquent, heartfelt and beautifully written posts here. I disagree with Chow that it was invented or BS. I believe every word of it. I wonder if Tyler ever contacted Sarah!?
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