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Dr. Ruth's ghost is at it again....somebody call an exorcist...
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Originally Posted by driftwoodpoint
It's one of those situations that always sounds good in your imagination but the reality is much more painful for everyone. You could never trust the other person. How would you ever feel special or really loved after that. Where is the commitment? You open a can of worms that the other person might find someone just a touch better and than the marriage ends...and what if there were young children. How confusing for everyone. Imagine the phone ringing, "oh dear, it's your girlfriend" Yikes.
....I personally kinda like the idea of polygamy... You have your own home to do with what you please and get a visitor occasionally. It's almost like a stable FWB arrangement.
I'm the queen of off-topic, but let's try to stick to polyamory for at least a few posts.
Never was interested in "swinging" or an "open marriage", but I am reposting the following from a "Threesomes?" thread, because it appears related to your topic and I never got a response:
"I have read every post on this thread and while I respect the wide range of opinions and experiences, I have never experienced the angst and moral outrage of some. I guess i never thought of a "threesome" as a dispassionate, unemotional recreational outing. I did live with two women for over ten years, and the sexual component of the relationship was important. When friends and colleagues wanted to engage me in a conversation about the sexual aspect of the threesome, it was clear that they did not appreciate the core of trust that was necessary for a successful relationship. Therefore, while I am not morally opposed to a "threesome", I believe it is extremely rare to find partners more committed to each others feelings than to their own selfish gratification."
Two wives, same house, same bed. It took great effort, but was never "work".
Never was interested in "swinging" or an "open marriage", but I am reposting the following from a "Threesomes?" thread, because it appears related to your topic and I never got a response:
"I have read every post on this thread and while I respect the wide range of opinions and experiences, I have never experienced the angst and moral outrage of some. I guess i never thought of a "threesome" as a dispassionate, unemotional recreational outing. I did live with two women for over ten years, and the sexual component of the relationship was important. When friends and colleagues wanted to engage me in a conversation about the sexual aspect of the threesome, it was clear that they did not appreciate the core of trust that was necessary for a successful relationship. Therefore, while I am not morally opposed to a "threesome", I believe it is extremely rare to find partners more committed to each others feelings than to their own selfish gratification."
Two wives, same house, same bed. It took great effort, but was never "work".
But I only have one question WHY. Honestly what are the pro/cons.
But I only have one question WHY. Honestly what are the pro/cons.
Loved them both and still do. An analysis of the "pros/cons" would be extraordinarily lengthy, but at least in my case, would be very similar to "marriage x 2" concurrently.
I just flipped past Oprah today and there was a woman on who was married but with a 'boyfriend'...I was like huuh?
In my opinion there's no point in open marriages,you're either committed or you're not. Unless you made different vows but what's the point?
To me that's a security thing,'having your cake and eating it too'- or having a 'backup'. How could people agree to that? Somewhere along the line wouldn't someone feel 'upstaged'?...
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