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Originally Posted by LAFan
I never quite understood why girls who run away if a guy said what I'm stating. It sounds kinda petty.
Maybe I met a good woman, I'll ask in a month or two.
I'll just take a ride around the city, go to dancing clubs that aren't ageist, go to restaurants late at night where no kids are allowed, or go to strip teases.
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hmm...okay. You are missing my point. Let me put it into a mock-conversation for you (and you can think that you'll be much better than this- but this is blunt)
Scenario: we're at a grassy park, there's a playground FAR FAR off in the distance, almost out of sight, but definitely within earshot, having lunch.
me: so... I'm glad that you asked me out. I love being in parks on sunny days in the city- it allows you to reconnect with yourself and just makes you feel glad to be alive (ok, not my greatest line, but we're pretending here)
you: yeah. I don't like the kids yelling and screaming over there
me: why not? I can't even hear them.
you: I don't like kids.
me: well...I love kids. I've grown up in a big family.
you: I don't ever want to have them! I don't like them! They're dirty, stinky, messy, and all they ever do is cry!
me: well...initially they might. They also laugh and joke, and bring smiles to some people. Besides, they're over there, WELL out of earshot.
you: I just don't want them. Ever. Not for me.
me: ... Um, ok.
(end scenario)
Now from this conversation, I wouldn't want to go out again, even if you asked me, which judging from one of your prior posts, I'm guessing you wouldn't. However, I wouldn't feel comfortable disclosing WHY I feel the way I do to you at that point either (because it's anonymous I WILL tell you that I was molested by my only living grandparent when I was a young teen- and for me, I don't want that happening to my kid- because the world today is no place for children- no insults please- this is my personal belief and I do NOT expect other people to believe the same things i do). So you see LaFan...there are a TON of things that people just don't feel comfortable disclosing right away. Where you may be upfront about it, many are not and are just not comfortable in that kind of a situation. From my comments, you would think I want kids. However, I never actually said that. You would not get to find out that I love my little brother and think the world of him even though he's only 11. You would jump to a conclusion. People naturally jump to conclusions, thus why I say don't mention it until you've been dating for a few months- I would run away because I dont' want to talk about it with you- as the event was very traumatic for me, and I'd be scared to go anywhere with you that there were children (because I don't want it brought up).
As for places you hang out- you're a fairly smart fellow (confused though and dense- as we all are at some point
) Hang out in places that would have the kind of people you want to meet! If you go to a bar- expect that you will meet people (men and women) who like going to bars. If you go to a club, the same thing. If school is important to you- join a school club (again, another benefit of working part time- you can still participate in these!). If you like staying fit, join a gym and meet people there. The possibilities are endless