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Hi everyone,
I have had an involvement with a guy on and off since 2000. This includes being intimate the entire 8 years on and off as well. I have strong feelings for this guy and would love to have a serious relationship with him leading to marriage. Well,2 years ago I found out that he has a 2 year old son with somebody that he was obviously dating while dating me as well. After realizing what a dishonest person he was I stopped talking to him and tried to move on with my life and date other guys. We didn't talk for about a year. Well of course wouldn't you know it he starts calling me all the time and asking me out again. So after months of his pursuing me I finally started dating him again. Well now it just seems like we have fallen back into the same pattern as before without me getting the real committment I want or deserve. He has talked about us being married but I think it is all talk and part of his game. We haven't even discussed being in a real relationship. So should I just cut him off or continue to be his friend without the intimacy . And another part of the problem is the attraction is so strong I don't know if can only be his friend. Oh and the kicker is I work with him as well . I welcome all advice!
Hi everyone,
I have had an involvement with a guy on and off since 2000. This includes being intimate the entire 8 years on and off as well. I have strong feelings for this guy and would love to have a serious relationship with him leading to marriage. Well,2 years ago I found out that he has a 2 year old son with somebody that he was obviously dating while dating me as well. After realizing what a dishonest person he was I stopped talking to him and tried to move on with my life and date other guys. We didn't talk for about a year. Well of course wouldn't you know it he starts calling me all the time and asking me out again. So after months of his pursuing me I finally started dating him again. Well now it just seems like we have fallen back into the same pattern as before without me getting the real committment I want or deserve. He has talked about us being married but I think it is all talk and part of his game. We haven't even discussed being in a real relationship. So should I just cut him off or continue to be his friend without the intimacy . And another part of the problem is the attraction is so strong I don't know if can only be his friend. Oh and the kicker is I work with him as well . I welcome all advice!
That's another concept I'll never get in this country... So, you don't wanna have sex with a dishonest person, but you wanna be his "friend"... Why? Somebody please help me out here!
I had a similar situation (minus the child) with a guy I was so very sexualy attracted to. That's what it is, the sex must be great. We were off and on for 8 years or so even while we were dating others. One night I went to him and told him that neither one of us will ever meet the person we are suppose to be with 'cause we're too wrapped up in each other. We were sexual magnets. But you can't build a relationship on sex alone. So I cut it off and months later I met my husband. He also met and married a woman. Just because it feels good doesn't make him or the situation right. All it does is deprive you of meeting a better match.
You work with him so that makes things complex for you. I would stop dating him and stop being his friend. You can still be a friendly coworker, though. Just stop doin' it in the broom closet
You need to stop doing what you are doing... it is obvious your feelings are not that great for him... move along.. nothing left there to deal with.. time for you to look for the greener side of the grass (as if there is such a thing). But move along... he will find someone else...
You work with him so that makes things complex for you. I would stop dating him and stop being his friend. You can still be a friendly coworker, though. Just stop doin' it in the broom closet
My advice is to stop all communication with him. The friends with beneifts type thing while dating and hooking up with others always leads to hurt feelings. I know from experience.
My advice is to stop all communication with him. The friends with beneifts type thing while dating and hooking up with others always leads to hurt feelings. I know from experience.
I'm not really that old or that much of a fuddy duddy, but the phrase hooking up is so friggin tacky. I guess people can still screw around just use a little discretion.
I'm not really that old or that much of a fuddy duddy, but the phrase hooking up is so friggin tacky. I guess people can still screw around just use a little discretion.
Maybe we are too old. This phrase is a pet peeve of mine, too.
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So, you don't wanna have sex with a dishonest person, but you wanna be his "friend"...
