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I've said it before and I'll say it again - this "once a cheater, always a cheater" sounds cute but it is NOT always true.
You can't lump all cheating into one category and you can't lump all people who have done this into one big group who all think and act alike. There are successful marriages that have overcome infidelity - it is not always the death of a marriage. Making blanket statements like that may rob some of the very hope they need to go forward and save their marriage.
There IS hope - not in all cases of course, some people don't want to stop being cheaters - but for some cheating is very out of character. In those cases with the proper marriage counseling or therapy, marriages can be saved - it takes hard work on the part of BOTH spouses, but it can be done.
So what are the categories of cheating and why are some forgivable? I also have to ask why someone would want to save a marriage with someone who thinks so little of them they cheated on them? You can't mean much to someone who'd cheat on you.
So what are the categories of cheating and why are some forgivable? I also have to ask why someone would want to save a marriage with someone who thinks so little of them they cheated on them? You can't mean much to someone who'd cheat on you.
If I thought you REALLY wanted to know this I'd invest the time to discuss it with you, but you don't. You've already made up your mind in about your marriage - you've made that perfectly clear in thread after thread after thread. My comments were actually directed at others who may be facing this issue who need another perspective on the subject
Because some people know that nobody is perfect!!!
LOL, sticking your private parts where they don't belong doesn't exactly fall in the category of making a mistake. It's quite deliberate and you know what you're doing.
If I thought you REALLY wanted to know this I'd invest the time to discuss it with you, but you don't. You've already made up your mind in about your marriage - you've made that perfectly clear in thread after thread after thread. My comments were actually directed at others who may be facing this issue who need another perspective on the subject
Then don't talk about my marriage. Talk in general.
My marriage is done because I won't stay with someone who cheated on me. I think more of myself than that. I don't have to settle for someone who cheats on me and I won't.
Then don't talk about my marriage. Talk in general.
My marriage is done because I won't stay with someone who cheated on me. I think more of myself than that. I don't have to settle for someone who cheats on me and I won't.
I have not talked about your marriage other than to say you've made it clear yours is over - which I've also said numerous times is your choice to make, every person has to make this decision for themselves. I WAS talking in general in my original post - again, generally speaking, cheating does not always mean the death of a marriage. Many marriages have survived infidelity and gone on to be healthier, happier marriages. I am really sorry that didn't happen in your case.
I don't remember using the word mistake.......oh, I don't have to rely on memory.
Exactly what I said is right there in print.
But even if I had........
Definitions of mistake on the Web: a wrong action attributable to bad judgment or ignorance or inattention
(from : wordnet..princeton.net)
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they do not have a developed morale....and don't care much about relationships...some people are that way.
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Originally Posted by Ivorytickler
Pretty much my thoughts too. That and they lack inegrity. Otherwise every bored person who needs a thrill would cheat.
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