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Old 10-18-2008, 11:12 AM
 
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I love men who are manly but not macho. To me, there is a difference. My ideal guy would be strong and caring at the same time. He would know his own inner strength and trust it well enough not to try to lord it over anyone, and he would not be intimidated by me--i.e. my fiestiness, intelligence, quirkiness, etc.. My ideal guy would be an equal partner in love and in life. That takes a lot of strength and courage, balanced by sensitivity. Sensitivity, to me, is not a sign of weakness. To be sensitive means to feel, to know, to be attuned or in touch--to laugh when it's funny, to cry a bit when it's sad, to revel in joy, to not run away from pain, to be completely there (in and outside the bedroom). Now, that's the man for me.
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Old 10-18-2008, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Miami, FL
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The key is to keep 'em guessing!! Be a nice guy for a while then switch and be bad guy for a little bit. For example, call her regularly for a couple days to discuss a sad story and patiently listen to her voice her concern. Then don't call her for a couple of days. Then call her and when she asks why you don't answer your phone tell her you were going to answer but the Three Stooges were on...

Anyone can be a nice guy and bad guy at the same time!! Like this:

"Oh, look at the cute little puppy. He looks hungry. I wonder if I should give him a piece of my juicy T-bone steak?

Nah..."

Exactly. Women want a decent guy who is a challenge. Be unpredictable. However in marriage, women want nice guys......
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Old 10-19-2008, 06:31 PM
 
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Hey I have no problem w/ women who want the men with everything except I have a problem when women go after men for money and success. Women either build success w/ their men or stand by them as they earn it or they build their fortunes together. I take great issue when women marry for money! Glad my husband and I had built together!
I agree with you. +1 on rep.
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Old 10-19-2008, 06:38 PM
 
Location: Livingston, Montana
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a man that is comfortable w/himself to be both

My hubby is macho, a manly man. Beautiful heart, sensitive, caring, loving and understanding (not just w/me but w/people in general) He's cried for/over me and during movies and it doesn't make him any less of a man.

He used to be a hardass man (drug dealer way back in the day before he met me) but didn't like the path his life was on so he gave it up. He's tough when he needs to be (thankfully seldom) and I know he'd guard me from danger w/his life....
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Old 10-19-2008, 07:04 PM
 
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a man that is comfortable w/himself to be both

My hubby is macho, a manly man. Beautiful heart, sensitive, caring, loving and understanding (not just w/me but w/people in general) He's cried for/over me and during movies and it doesn't make him any less of a man.

He used to be a hardass man (drug dealer way back in the day before he met me) but didn't like the path his life was on so he gave it up. He's tough when he needs to be (thankfully seldom) and I know he'd guard me from danger w/his life....
That was a beautiful post, and there seems to be no doubt that you had a lot to do with him changing his ways. People can change for the better, if they have someone walking the walk with them. You both should be very proud
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Old 10-19-2008, 07:39 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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Not macho or overly sensitive. Why are the choices at the opposite ends of the spectrum? I don't want to live with or date a man who merely grunts when I ask him something. Nor do I want a man who emotes all over the place like a woman (sorry, but I have girlfriends for that!). I want someone who is willing to have a conversation, and more importantly, will be there to give me a hug when I've had a bad day and just want some comfort. Also, if I say, "I just want to vent, so please don't try to fix this problem", he'd better listen and understand that. I guess, like others have already said, I want someone masculine.
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Old 10-19-2008, 09:49 PM
 
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They leave out nerds. That is not right. Nerds are cool and sexy.

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Not macho or overly sensitive. Why are the choices at the opposite ends of the spectrum? I don't want to live with or date a man who merely grunts when I ask him something. Nor do I want a man who emotes all over the place like a woman (sorry, but I have girlfriends for that!). I want someone who is willing to have a conversation, and more importantly, will be there to give me a hug when I've had a bad day and just want some comfort. Also, if I say, "I just want to vent, so please don't try to fix this problem", he'd better listen and understand that. I guess, like others have already said, I want someone masculine.
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Old 10-19-2008, 09:52 PM
 
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They leave out nerds. That is not right. Nerds are cool and sexy.
pocket protectors and tape on the glasses turn you on???? You are a wild man, Artsy!
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Old 10-19-2008, 09:56 PM
 
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ok not that nerdy. I'm talking about those ones with very high IQ and they are sort of awkward.

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pocket protectors and tape on the glasses turn you on???? You are a wild man, Artsy!
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Old 10-19-2008, 09:58 PM
 
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ok not that nerdy. I'm talking about those ones with very high IQ and they are sort of awkward.
My husband is sort of like Johnny Knoxville from Jackass...just well educated and more sophisticated...I hope
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