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Old 06-27-2008, 02:29 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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lol you took the words right out of my mouth
Eeehh, I'm just jaded and cynical. Marriage can be great for people who get it right.
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:31 PM
 
Location: Wu Dang Mountain
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And what's wrong with that? Can't live without turbulence, can you...
Can't live without change, no...
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Can't live without change, no...
And what would the change be in the context of the topic?
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:38 PM
 
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And what would the change be in the context of the topic?
Level 7 - marriage? Being with the same person until Eternity ends?

In the Taoist way of things, that which does not change, dies.
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:43 PM
 
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Level 7 - marriage? Being with the same person until Eternity ends?

In the Taoist way of things, that which does not change, dies.
So Taoists don't get married (you were...)? If they do, what do they keep changing to keep that marriage together?
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:49 PM
 
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So Taoists don't get married (you were...)?
Old-school, hardcore Taoists didn't because it would take time away from their personal development. Yes, I was married - "it seemed the thing to do at the time"...plus, I have no regrets about it because it was a learning experience for me and I have two wonderful sons from it.

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If they do, what do they keep changing to keep that marriage together?
You know how the advice columns always say to "keep the marriage fresh" - try new things, go new places? I guess that's what works. I've known too many marriages that just halt in mid-stream and never change - that I think is a bad thing.
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:51 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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Level 7 - marriage? Being with the same person until Eternity ends?

In the Taoist way of things, that which does not change, dies.
I read a few books about Tao masters, I noticed one thing that goes along with that longevity, at peace, serenity they seem to exude..THEY'RE SINGLE!
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:53 PM
 
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I read a few books about Tao masters, I noticed one thing that goes along with that longevity, at peace, serenity they seem to exude..THEY'RE SINGLE!
Exactly!
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Old 06-27-2008, 02:59 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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You know how the advice columns always say to "keep the marriage fresh" - try new things, go new places? I guess that's what works. I've known too many marriages that just halt in mid-stream and never change - that I think is a bad thing.
Well, that's certainly not a bad idea, provided one doesn't have a lazy slug at hand (in which case, as you advised me, salt comes in handy ). I thought Taoists perhaps keep some concept of "marriage" going while "changing" wives in the meantime... who knows...
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Old 06-27-2008, 03:04 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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Exactly!
Everybody says I'm becoming rapidly more at peace, and all that stuff. The females don't seem to like it at all.

I realize I won't appeal to a female that meets my standards. There is only one answer to this dilema, raise my self up standard wise so I will
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