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Old 07-24-2008, 11:19 PM
 
Location: south east and wanting to move.
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I was wondering what, if anything, should a guy bring on a first date? I realize every situation is different so here are the details of this one:

I have been talking to a girl that I found online who seems amazingly similar to me and to what I have been looking for my whole life. And when I say that, I mean better than probably anything I have been involved with in the past as far as compatibility. We are both in our lower 30's but we have yet to meet. I certainly don't want to count my chickens before they hatch (meaning have too high of hopes and everything turns out only mediocre) but I have a different feeling about this one that it could really be something good.

What do I bring? I don't want to go overboard bringing 50 roses..lol..as thats a little ridiculous and out of place for a first date. But I don't want to do just nothing. We both seem to have a good solid upbringing/background and I don't know if doing something formal, or something simple, or something 'cute' or 'nice' or what?

- Guys, have good luck with anything in particular?

- Ladies, have any ideas that you would have liked a guy to bring or do that might make you melt a little?

Thanks!

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Old 07-24-2008, 11:34 PM
 
Location: Cosmic Consciousness
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You're a treasure! I like you!

You want her to know you think she's special, and you want her to realize she's never met anyone like you... You don't want formal, but you do want sweet, lovely, small, elegant, unusual -- right? -- which will tell her YOU are sweet, elegant, gentle.

Adult women LOVE receiving flowers from men! I would suggest a small amount, like a small handful, of an unusual flower, like a little hand-held bunch of violets, or white or yellow fresia, or many-colored cornflowers or sweetpeas. Especially if you can find something in HER favorite color(s). Is this sounding ooooooohy? Well, I'm a romantic woman, and if a man brought to me a little nosegay or little bouquet of unusual little flowers like those, I'd grin and hug him instantly! And she can press one or two of those flowers in a book and save them forever...

If you want her to "melt", then you don't want anything "practical" like a candle, or anything she might not want like chocolates. You want something magical... A small garden faerie perhaps? This lady is very fortunate to know you.

Both the nosegays pictured below (click on image to enlarge) are too much, too full, but you get the idea -- smaller, and held in the hand, or can be rested on a table while you two eat dinner.
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Old 07-24-2008, 11:35 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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A nice, little bouquet of peonies would make me melt a little. I think it's a sweet gesture.
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Old 07-25-2008, 12:07 AM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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- Ladies, have any ideas that you would have liked a guy to bring or do that might make you melt a little?

Thanks!
My current boyfriend brought me a DVD of R Kelly's concert because I'd mentioned earlier how upset I was that I wasn't able to go. I was so excited I asked if we could skip the movie and just watch the DVD. It was huge to me because it showed that he listened to what I was saying and because he hates R Kelly.

But if it was a first date and we didn't know each other beforehand; I'm more partial to silly things or knick knacks. I still have this little magnet a boy gave me in high school that said "excuses to end a bad date" I like guys with a sense of humor but I'm not big on flowers - they make me think of funerals.

Since you've been talking online I say you should buy something that makes you think of her - but it doesn't have to be really elaborate. In fact simplicity sometimes goes a long way.
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Old 07-25-2008, 01:46 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Money...

I kid. Flowers are classic.
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Old 07-25-2008, 02:00 AM
 
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Adult women LOVE receiving flowers from men!
Sigh. I thought this type of thinking was only on television and in the movies. Perhaps I'm alone here.

If someone gave me flowers I'd be pissed because I think flowers are much more beautiful in their natural, living state. Picked flowers die within days. What a waste.

How about just showing up and acting like a real person? Why should you feel obligated to bring any sort of offering? The best gift is if you both hit it off and enjoy spending time together, no?
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Old 07-25-2008, 02:40 AM
 
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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Sigh. I thought this type of thinking was only on television and in the movies. Perhaps I'm alone here.

If someone gave me flowers I'd be pissed because I think flowers are much more beautiful in their natural, living state. Picked flowers die within days. What a waste.

How about just showing up and acting like a real person? Why should you feel obligated to bring any sort of offering? The best gift is if you both hit it off and enjoy spending time together, no?
Surely OP isnt obligated, but dam it is a nice gesture..no?
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Old 07-25-2008, 02:42 AM
 
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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I was wondering what, if anything, should a guy bring on a first date? I realize every situation is different so here are the details of this one:

I have been talking to a girl that I found online who seems amazingly similar to me and to what I have been looking for my whole life. And when I say that, I mean better than probably anything I have been involved with in the past as far as compatibility. We are both in our lower 30's but we have yet to meet. I certainly don't want to count my chickens before they hatch (meaning have too high of hopes and everything turns out only mediocre) but I have a different feeling about this one that it could really be something good.

What do I bring? I don't want to go overboard bringing 50 roses..lol..as thats a little ridiculous and out of place for a first date. But I don't want to do just nothing. We both seem to have a good solid upbringing/background and I don't know if doing something formal, or something simple, or something 'cute' or 'nice' or what?

- Guys, have good luck with anything in particular?

- Ladies, have any ideas that you would have liked a guy to bring or do that might make you melt a little?

Thanks!
You seem to be a sweetheart..yes, flowers are nice..I'm sure whatever type you buy for her, she'll like them. Guys like you are so rare. I've been with my partner for 16 years now and he still buys me Orchids..I love them.
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Old 07-25-2008, 06:57 AM
 
Location: Philippines
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Sigh. I thought this type of thinking was only on television and in the movies. Perhaps I'm alone here.

If someone gave me flowers I'd be pissed because I think flowers are much more beautiful in their natural, living state. Picked flowers die within days. What a waste.

How about just showing up and acting like a real person? Why should you feel obligated to bring any sort of offering? The best gift is if you both hit it off and enjoy spending time together, no?
I agree with this. I am an adult woman and I really do not care to receive flowers at all. I really hate the generalization that all women love to receive flowers.

To the OP, if you have been talking to her, you may have a better grasp on what her likes/dislikes are.

I don't really see the need to bring any sort of gift. It is a nice gesture, but if I were to receive something from someone I never met, I would feel really odd about it.

Just one woman's perspective though.
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Old 07-25-2008, 07:04 AM
 
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A large bulge in your pants and wallet, a good smile and full head of hair, and a body that is athletic enough to carry her out of the building should the place go up in flames. Screw the flowers, save the expensive s**t for later in the relationship when you have to apologize.
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