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It doesn't sound like she's enjoying life that much. Try to show her a good time, like as if you were dating, and if she doesn't play along that's another sign she might be depressed. In any case I think getting her to a doctor, getting both of you in therapy as well, is probably a good idea.
As for how to approach her about it, you'll have to come out and say it but I wouldn't suggest just walking up to her and blurt it out. Try to have a conversation and get both of you to relax a bit and then bring it up gently.
I know it's not easy having serious discussions like that. Good luck.
All of the advice above was good........the bottome line is that she can come out of this.......depression is a devistating condition. I had the same, and with proper medication I am back to normal.
All of the advice above was good........the bottome line is that she can come out of this.......depression is a devistating condition. I had the same, and with proper medication I am back to normal.
I seem to be in a similiar situation as MLM1977, my wife and I seem to no longer engage in intimacy.
My wife whom i love dearly says that part of the problem is that i don't understand what she is going through since she has entered menopause early, however i find it hard to believe that this is the true problem considering she won't talk about any aspect of our sex or intimate life.
When a conversation does begin it usually end in an arguement at around midnight which accomplishes nothing for us emotionally, and definitely does help our getting enough sleep.
So how does one get their spouse to communicate when they don't seem to want to discuss the real problem?
Hello everyone. My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. We had a very active sex life prior to getting married. We even lived together for 2 years before we were married. It seems that my wife's sex drive completely disappeared once we were married.
For the first couple of years I practically had to beg for sex (not literally). Now, we have sex maybe 2 to 3 times year at this point.
I am not a sex addict by any means, but feel that 2 to 3 times a year is not normal for a relatively young couple (both in our early 30's). We both work full time jobs, but have no children. We come home from work and watch TV until she falls asleep and then I go and spend time on the computer.
She has no motivation for sex, housework, or anything else at this point. What can I do to help get her motivated again?
I have attempted to speak with her about these things, but she just clams up and won't say anything. I am also debating counseling but don't know how to bring it up. Any advice would greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
HUGE signs of depression. Please go with her to seek professional help.
Don't be afraid to bring up therapy. We have been married 5, together total for 8, and I can see how this sort of thing develops. Also, once you get into therapy things like seeing a doc for a checkup will be more open for your wife. My DH suggested therapy to me last year, and I am so glad we did. Don't give up!!
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