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Old 08-16-2008, 08:28 PM
 
Location: Jersey in da Citi!!
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No big deal, if sex is not your thing, then its not. Doesnt mean something is wrong with you..

Its just the stereotype that'll never change that men love sex, cant do without it, usually initiates it, I mean..they even went out and created viagra to keep men happy!!

You dont seem pressured to me, you seem to be quite content with your decision. Good for you.
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Old 08-16-2008, 08:42 PM
 
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I have found sex is great contingent on the person I'm having it with.....most of the time it's with a guy that was very cute but awful in bed and had awful rude creepy personality. Every now and again it's with a cute man with caring and sweet personality and it makes the sex far superior.....makes a huge difference....it depends on the person ok just remember that..
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Old 08-16-2008, 09:32 PM
 
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Sarah,

Once again, why should the man bare all of the burden of sex? Women too need to be contributing to an 'orgasmic experience'. Furthermore, I've never had an issue making a woman orgasm ... I just don't have a lot of sex.

[quote=mom2justynsarah;4883790]Ooh, I like what you said here! If more men were like you..this world would be orgasmic.

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RON! Practice makes perfect. Put down the lube and get out there for practice. All ya have to do is know the "buttons", and listen. It's like crack'n a safe, once you know the sequence....your in.
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Old 08-16-2008, 09:35 PM
 
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Trish,

I love sex, but I don't love everything that goes along with it. There are guys who will do almost anything to get laid, including, but not limited to, putting up with a lot of BS, putting their own priorities on the back burner, etc.

I'm not willing to be any woman's sucker just for a piece of a$$.

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No big deal, if sex is not your thing, then its not. Doesnt mean something is wrong with you..

Its just the stereotype that'll never change that men love sex, cant do without it, usually initiates it, I mean..they even went out and created viagra to keep men happy!!

You dont seem pressured to me, you seem to be quite content with your decision. Good for you.
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Old 08-16-2008, 10:00 PM
 
Location: from houstoner to bostoner to new yorker to new jerseyite ;)
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So... you haven't had sex for two years due to performance anxiety? Is that it? Because otherwise I don't see where this pressure you speak of is coming from but inside your own mind. Or you're not having sex because the women you've dated before were cold fish who just laid there? Why does having one ho-hum sexual experience mean you don't get to have sex for several years? I'm not really following your thought process here.
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Old 08-18-2008, 03:12 PM
 
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Ronald, I've wondered the same thing. I'll come out and say it. I've gone about a year without and I wondered what's gonna happen when I get back out there.

First, the positive. You can find girls out there who don't expect the world from you, and will be OK with a "friendship" type relationship where things are equal and you both consent to have sex for sex sake. But if you chase the girls who are always chased, you'll have to sacrifice something of yourself. If you want to stay in practice, get out there and find someone to practice with. You'll probably have to keep your standards in check. And stay away from porn.

Second, the negative. Girls talk about sex a lot more than guys do. A guy will say "yeah I hit it" a girl will tell all her girlfriends every detail of what happened and so if you drop the ball soon everyone in that circle will know. This is what I know from having 3 sisters and many female friends.
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Old 08-18-2008, 03:31 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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I'm 28 (soon to be 29) and haven't had intercourse in two years. Prior to my ex, it was about five years. Throughout most of my adolescence and 20s, I was never a sexually active guy (having sex almost daily, etc.) due to different circumstances: LDRs, dating woes, etc.

At this point, I haven't the slightest idea when I'll be sexually active again. It could be tomorrow, or another few years. What bothers me is the expectation for the man to always be the performer. If you don't hit a home run the on the first outing, it could very well mean a return to going several more years without sex, and of course, potentially repeating the last experience.

I enjoy sex, but I am not delusional about my lack of it (which, for the most part, I am perfectly okay with) and the expectation that I perform. I'm not sure how any guy in my position could be with anyone who's willing to overlook his inactivity in exchange for improving at his skill. This is one of a million reasons why I don't bother dating, pursuing women, etc., because it's far easier for me to live a drama-free life without all the unnecessary stuff that goes on between men and women. I can live without all of the nonsense.

I think there needs to be a balance in the bedroom between men and women. Contrary to what anyone might say, men are still held liable for almost every thing with regard to dating and mating. I'd say that society is well overdue for a change.

Your my husbands age....almost 29.....and lemme tell ya....it's a shared responsibility......unless your wanting a girl who just lays on her back then it's totally shared.....I mean common....takes two to do it and two to make it good.......I don't see all the responsibility being put on the man at all....half, for sure....but all??? No way....
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Old 08-24-2008, 08:08 PM
 
Location: Maine
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There are other ways to WOW your future partner than with your penis. It isn't all about "hitting a homerun"-- foreplay is worth investing the time into!
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Old 08-24-2008, 08:46 PM
 
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I can be happy with just foreplay for the rest of my life....good foreplay is really underrated and fantastic...

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There are other ways to WOW your future partner than with your penis. It isn't all about "hitting a homerun"-- foreplay is worth investing the time into!
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Old 08-24-2008, 08:57 PM
 
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I can be happy with just foreplay for the rest of my life....good foreplay is really underrated and fantastic...

lol and i could be happy with cuddling
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