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Originally Posted by lover1973
I asked a married man to lunch, he is also my ex boyfriend, I do have strong feelings for him, and havent seen him in years (15 yrs) we got up on facebook, when I ask him, he wanted to make it a different day because his wife comes to his shop on certain days and he didnt want her to know, so we went to lunch just as friends, he said there was nothing wrong with his relationship, but he hasnt had a sex life in a long time. Nothing happened, however I did send him a message because I am getting married soon, to let him know that I do find him very sexy to just let it out and feel better because I told him, he did respond back asking me if I was trying to make him blush??? I dont think its going to escalate to anything but harmless flirting, I know he loves his wife, and I love my soon to be hubby, it's just that when I got feelings for someone and I never told him how I felt, it would bother me and would make it hard to not think about it once I do get married??? I guess I need advice too!!!!
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Just sleep with him and get it over with. If you didn't want to and you were completely into your soon to be husband, you wouldn't even think about another man that way...at least not for many, many years. Get it out of your system now or do your soon-to-be husband a favor and spill the beans. Don't drag these feelings into a new marriage because you would be betraying your husband on a deep, intimate level.
Be honest, frank, and upfront with everyone involved for God's sake, including yourself. You don't sound like a woman who is ready to get married IMHO.
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