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M age 57. I tried and tried AND TRIED the internet ads and then tried them again! I got plenty of DATES with women who liked me as "friends", saw or felt no chemistry/ no chance of getting serious with me, wound up rejecting me.
Did they think that I was some unromantic guy who just wanted to spend money on a "dinner and movie" companion once a week? Were those women insensitive enough to believe that?
I'm not looking for advice, sry. I'm not looking to read or to hear "don't give up, there's someone out there for you" for the 3,263rd time. I'm looking for a woman who is interested, who is open rather than picky, who is serious about marriage, who will want to marry me.
Know anyone like her?
I have no demands about age, looks, figure or any other superficiality. My only "demand" is that she wants to marry me/that she is as against being alone as I am.
I'm not afraid of a desperate woman, I'm afraid of a woman who rejects me. It ought to be my karma for me to meet a woman who is so desperate that she'll marry me right away and if a desperate woman would scare me? then I ought to learn that because I sure don't think that I'd have any problem about marrying a desperate woman....neither one of us will feel desperate once we have each other, that's my philosophy regarding desperation.
Desperate is good because I too am desperate and I'm so desperate and lonely that I'd been more ashamed to hide my desperation rather than be ashamed about being desperate so if you or anyone knows a desperate NY woman then please consider me her mate.
But you know, most women who would be interested are in the age range where they probably have been married before, and some of them have had tough experiences of it. You can't blame people for wanting to take it slow and to be really sure. "Dinner and a movie" is cheesy, but it's one way to get to know the person. You have to be patient.
I'm desperate so I'm hoping to find a woman who is desperate rather than a woman that is picky or superficial (wants looks, money, height, body build etc) or who fakes not being desperate.
All it takes is one woman and one man and you have a marriage. The one woman and the one man can feel any possible way about desperation. There's no law saying that no-one in the world wants to meet a desperate person, right?
Not those who make blanket statements like "desperation is a turn off" and act as though the statement were true for 100% of the women.
Riv, despite my very brief response above, I am perhaps more sympathetic to your postion than you think. I think you initially posted in the wrong forum.
Now that it is in the more correct forum, I'll just say something you probably already know. Meeting someone is not a miracle cure.
Last edited by nyctc7; 08-29-2008 at 01:28 PM..
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Desperation is a turn-off
