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Old 09-01-2008, 04:51 PM
 
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Recently I have been haunted. I find myself physically attracted to jerks. I love having sex with them and screwing with their brains using various manipulative tactics. For me it is a power trip and I never stay with one guy for a long period of time. (Guys should be wary of me because I am a mega *****) Lately though I met a guy who I have so much respect for I couldnt imagine playing ugly games at him. In a strange way I love him (and yes mega ******* are capable of love) but I am terrified of having sex with him or even tell him that I love him. I am scared that I might not be very into him physically and that he might deduce that I dont love him as much as he loves me (which is probably true) but the point here is that in my emotionally limited world I do love him I simply dont know how on earth to express it without feeling deceitful. I know he deserves a better girl than me (you know the type that loves to fall in love, marry have toddlers and live happily ever after) but at the same time deep down I feel jealous at the thought that some other girl will have him and will be capable of loving him back the way he should be loved back (usually I dont say that about guys but this guy is unusually much more mature than women his own age or older).

Should I sleep with him, should I hug him, should I say what I feel. So many choices and i feel like Hamlet.
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Old 09-01-2008, 04:55 PM
 
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You have BPD or NPD? See a forensic psychologist please.

The man you are "haunting" is in danger of getting his self-esteem damaged by you.

I don't put up with people that consider themselves deceitful, manipulative, and mega B-word. I either ignore people like you and or give people like you very abrasive-long winded lectures. I'm not usually shy about telling others my opinion about people who are mega-b words.

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Old 09-01-2008, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Go ahead and fall for him! Maybe he will treat you, the way you treat other people.
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Old 09-01-2008, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Ha, I can't help but ask with the info provided - And $$how much$$ is this guy worth???

Since you do not find him attractive, that is, so early on.

If it's "love" you wouldn't even have the idea of feeling deceitful in your mind/heart/spirit.

Again. . . what's the worth?
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Old 09-01-2008, 05:35 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Leave him alone. Did you expect a different answer?
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Old 09-01-2008, 05:52 PM
 
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Why did you bother to play games like that anyway?

Games, more like whoring. That's what whores do, they manipulate and play with men's emotions and have "power trips" deceiving themselves.

How would you know if he loves you and you can't seem to love yourself? Hhm?

I got a suggestion: Just be human. You don't have to sleep with him just because you like him, there are other ways, you know.
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Old 09-01-2008, 08:22 PM
 
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blah blah blah...Should I sleep with him, should I hug him, should I say what I feel.
hug him while you sleep with him. and talk dirty, he really doesn't care how you feel. he's a guy
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Old 09-01-2008, 09:38 PM
 
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Are you a Scorpio or Gemini by any chance?

Even bitc*es repent. Maybe he's your catalyst for change.. that said, only get involved with him if you know for sure that you are willing to amend your ways. Else, you'll only end up hurting him
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Old 09-01-2008, 09:42 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Are you a Scorpio or Gemini by any chance?

Even bitc*es repent. Maybe he's your catalyst for change.. that said, only get involved with him if you know for sure that you are willing to amend your ways. Else, you'll only end up hurting him
What the heck does Scorpios or Geminis have to do with this? Any sign can be mentally deranged.. not just scorpios and Geminis...
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Old 09-01-2008, 09:45 PM
 
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What the heck does Scorpios or Geminis have to do with this? Any sign can be mentally deranged.. not just scorpios and Geminis...
yea but, scorpios, i mean, c'mon. they tip the 'mentally deranged' scale. they are the standard by which all others are measured
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